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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 375447" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you- after re-reading my response, I realized it sounds like I'm angry at people here. I'm not- I'm angry but not at you all here. Actually, maybe I'm just more frustrated with my whole situation and yes, still feel some anger toward my family every time I think about difficult child not having access to a group home, therapuetic care, etc that dss could give because my family is so insistent that they must have control and keep everything in the family and I'm angry at the system that lets them have that control so they can save a buck from their funding while my kid gets thrown away in front of my eyes and I'm helpless to stop it. </p><p></p><p>VA- well I was told that because they agrred that a 45 min session with a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) every 3 weeks was not enough right now, I would have intensive outpatient for stabilization of crisis until there was an opening with someone who had expertise and experience in sicko families or sexual abuse, etc. Then yesterday I got a message from the Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) I'd seen there to begin with saying she might be the only person available thru this period. Wonderful. I am trying hard not to be picky or judgemental but I can't see myself having a good therapeutic relationship with a 20-some yo sitting there twirling her hair. Most people my age can't relate to half of my experiences- personal experiences or difficult child-dom. After all I went thru to get good therapy for myself, then try to find it for difficult child, I swear I think there has been NO progress in this field in 25 years. If it wasn't for that and my fighting the bneed to give up the dogs, I would be throwing myself at their feet- for my sake and difficult child's. I'm hoping they can get something going that would really be effective.</p><p></p><p>I just heard on the news today that research has concluded kids with adhd and other forms of disturbances might benefit a great deal from CBT to learn coping skills. Gee, ya thunk? Haven't we warrior moms been here a while saying that tdocs need to learn that medications, behavior mod and behavior contracts alone are NOT working? I would think maybe it's just me, but difficult child had two well-reknown psychiatrists say similar things- and that getting the system to realize it is a big part of the problem but getting tdocs who can and will do this is a bigger problem. I realize that some kids really do need intensive help from early preschool years, but there are many parents here, I think, whose kids would not have kept declining if adequate care had been given in the early stages of difficult child-dom instead of pushing medications and blaming the parent for not rewarding and giving consequenxes 'adequately'. That's why I'm starting to advocate more for MH boards to get a clue and start expecting more from their professionals.</p><p></p><p>I digress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 375447, member: 3699"] Thank you- after re-reading my response, I realized it sounds like I'm angry at people here. I'm not- I'm angry but not at you all here. Actually, maybe I'm just more frustrated with my whole situation and yes, still feel some anger toward my family every time I think about difficult child not having access to a group home, therapuetic care, etc that dss could give because my family is so insistent that they must have control and keep everything in the family and I'm angry at the system that lets them have that control so they can save a buck from their funding while my kid gets thrown away in front of my eyes and I'm helpless to stop it. VA- well I was told that because they agrred that a 45 min session with a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) every 3 weeks was not enough right now, I would have intensive outpatient for stabilization of crisis until there was an opening with someone who had expertise and experience in sicko families or sexual abuse, etc. Then yesterday I got a message from the Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) I'd seen there to begin with saying she might be the only person available thru this period. Wonderful. I am trying hard not to be picky or judgemental but I can't see myself having a good therapeutic relationship with a 20-some yo sitting there twirling her hair. Most people my age can't relate to half of my experiences- personal experiences or difficult child-dom. After all I went thru to get good therapy for myself, then try to find it for difficult child, I swear I think there has been NO progress in this field in 25 years. If it wasn't for that and my fighting the bneed to give up the dogs, I would be throwing myself at their feet- for my sake and difficult child's. I'm hoping they can get something going that would really be effective. I just heard on the news today that research has concluded kids with adhd and other forms of disturbances might benefit a great deal from CBT to learn coping skills. Gee, ya thunk? Haven't we warrior moms been here a while saying that tdocs need to learn that medications, behavior mod and behavior contracts alone are NOT working? I would think maybe it's just me, but difficult child had two well-reknown psychiatrists say similar things- and that getting the system to realize it is a big part of the problem but getting tdocs who can and will do this is a bigger problem. I realize that some kids really do need intensive help from early preschool years, but there are many parents here, I think, whose kids would not have kept declining if adequate care had been given in the early stages of difficult child-dom instead of pushing medications and blaming the parent for not rewarding and giving consequenxes 'adequately'. That's why I'm starting to advocate more for MH boards to get a clue and start expecting more from their professionals. I digress. [/QUOTE]
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