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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 757558" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>My Difficult Child daughter and son, both in their 40s react the same. </p><p></p><p>I have my political opinions, but I keep them to myself. I am an enabler by history (past tense, thanks to this group). I don't like conflict. I, too, am offended by the politcal hate on FB. </p><p></p><p>That said, both my Difficult Child daughter and my son have issues. My son was diagnosed bi-polar at age 17. He wouldnt take the medications, but amazingly enough, he has figured out how to channel the anxiety productively. Maybe what's going on in their brain contributes to their need to seek and maintain conflict. They seek what we want to avoid. </p><p></p><p>I try to redirect topics when I know they want to lead the conversation to anything controversial. It's probably a bit manipulative, but hey, it's my turn. I change the topic by asking about a favorite thing, something I hope will take their brain to a pleasurable place. I have found it has to be more than just changing topics, because they will just come right back to the same place. Learning to think logically and avoiding negative energy has helped me with this. The same tools I have acquired for my Difficult Child works with all circumstances.</p><p></p><p>by the way, my husband would have responded the same as yours. At this point in our lives, we deserve respect, even if we have to demand it. (We are in our 70s).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 757558, member: 23811"] My Difficult Child daughter and son, both in their 40s react the same. I have my political opinions, but I keep them to myself. I am an enabler by history (past tense, thanks to this group). I don't like conflict. I, too, am offended by the politcal hate on FB. That said, both my Difficult Child daughter and my son have issues. My son was diagnosed bi-polar at age 17. He wouldnt take the medications, but amazingly enough, he has figured out how to channel the anxiety productively. Maybe what's going on in their brain contributes to their need to seek and maintain conflict. They seek what we want to avoid. I try to redirect topics when I know they want to lead the conversation to anything controversial. It's probably a bit manipulative, but hey, it's my turn. I change the topic by asking about a favorite thing, something I hope will take their brain to a pleasurable place. I have found it has to be more than just changing topics, because they will just come right back to the same place. Learning to think logically and avoiding negative energy has helped me with this. The same tools I have acquired for my Difficult Child works with all circumstances. by the way, my husband would have responded the same as yours. At this point in our lives, we deserve respect, even if we have to demand it. (We are in our 70s). [/QUOTE]
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