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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 578978" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Thanks all. Nancy I think he was hoping to like the place better than he does. He has been in places that he liked (or at least didnt hate) and a place he really didnt like and at the time told us we had to get him out of there (and we did!). So this place reminds him of that place and yet he is not asking us to do anything about it. It is a lot cheaper and I am sure that shows.... but hey we are not willing to spend a lot this time around. I have come to the conclusion that the most important factor is him and not the place.</p><p></p><p>I think for the moment anyways he really does want to get his life together. At the moment he is sober and so obviously more clear headed. I think he really does not want to be on the streets again. It does seem he may be more willing than ever before to obey the rules so that he doesnt end up on the streets again. However I am not at all convinced that he really sees the connection between his drug use and his being on the streets and that he may still think that eventually he can drink and smoke pot. From what I understand that is common among addicts and my hope is that he will learn somehow from other addicts that this is not true.... and that he is willing to obey the rules of the sober house to stay sober. Time will tell. I am not grilling him about any of those attitudes because I dont think him and I having yet another conversation about that will be productive. For now he is safe and for that I am very thankful.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 578978, member: 15801"] Thanks all. Nancy I think he was hoping to like the place better than he does. He has been in places that he liked (or at least didnt hate) and a place he really didnt like and at the time told us we had to get him out of there (and we did!). So this place reminds him of that place and yet he is not asking us to do anything about it. It is a lot cheaper and I am sure that shows.... but hey we are not willing to spend a lot this time around. I have come to the conclusion that the most important factor is him and not the place. I think for the moment anyways he really does want to get his life together. At the moment he is sober and so obviously more clear headed. I think he really does not want to be on the streets again. It does seem he may be more willing than ever before to obey the rules so that he doesnt end up on the streets again. However I am not at all convinced that he really sees the connection between his drug use and his being on the streets and that he may still think that eventually he can drink and smoke pot. From what I understand that is common among addicts and my hope is that he will learn somehow from other addicts that this is not true.... and that he is willing to obey the rules of the sober house to stay sober. Time will tell. I am not grilling him about any of those attitudes because I dont think him and I having yet another conversation about that will be productive. For now he is safe and for that I am very thankful. TL [/QUOTE]
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