toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well we had a good phone call from or difficult child last night. I asked him how the place was and he doesnt like it much and had some negative (but not rude) comments about the place. But all this was in response to my asking... it was not the entitled, get me out of here, I cant do this kind of complaint we have had in the past.... and it was not nasty comments either. Just kind of factual. He is biding his time until he can go to the sober house.... and he wants to take some classes and get ajob.
We had gotten a somewhat heart stopping call from him last week because he had tested positive on a drug test... he said he had not taken anything that it was for the drugs he had taken in detox. (benzos)
I told him to call my friend who is helping us. He did call him and my friend felt he was telling the truth. I had that feeling as well but have been lied to so so many times I just was not sure I could believe him. And my heart stopped because the thought of him being kicked out and homeless again was about more than I could handle. I just did not want to go back to that place, at least not yet and not when I felt my difficult child was sincerely trying. I couldnt even write about it here. My friend told me they would probably run a level test and that would tell them if he had somehow gotten a hold of something and used while in treatment. And then we didnt hear anything for a week. I figured that probably meant it was ok but still it left me hanging a bit.
So apparantly they did do a level test and the amount was so small it was not detectable which meant he did not use it there. (Phew). I think my difficult child, although he doesnt like there, is still very relieved to be there instead of on the street that he has lost his sense of entitlement which is a very good thing.
I had a good nights sleep last night.
TL
Well we had a good phone call from or difficult child last night. I asked him how the place was and he doesnt like it much and had some negative (but not rude) comments about the place. But all this was in response to my asking... it was not the entitled, get me out of here, I cant do this kind of complaint we have had in the past.... and it was not nasty comments either. Just kind of factual. He is biding his time until he can go to the sober house.... and he wants to take some classes and get ajob.
We had gotten a somewhat heart stopping call from him last week because he had tested positive on a drug test... he said he had not taken anything that it was for the drugs he had taken in detox. (benzos)
I told him to call my friend who is helping us. He did call him and my friend felt he was telling the truth. I had that feeling as well but have been lied to so so many times I just was not sure I could believe him. And my heart stopped because the thought of him being kicked out and homeless again was about more than I could handle. I just did not want to go back to that place, at least not yet and not when I felt my difficult child was sincerely trying. I couldnt even write about it here. My friend told me they would probably run a level test and that would tell them if he had somehow gotten a hold of something and used while in treatment. And then we didnt hear anything for a week. I figured that probably meant it was ok but still it left me hanging a bit.
So apparantly they did do a level test and the amount was so small it was not detectable which meant he did not use it there. (Phew). I think my difficult child, although he doesnt like there, is still very relieved to be there instead of on the street that he has lost his sense of entitlement which is a very good thing.
I had a good nights sleep last night.
TL