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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 209756" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>I'm still pretty riled up about that meeting, so I will just vent here. I guess I should have titled my post more appropriately.</p><p></p><p>Our grandsons other grandmother, dad's mother, was very, very vocal during that meeting. She kept on and on about wanting more visitation and how two hours a week just wasn't enough. As a grandmother I understand that. And as a grandmother with custody, I wouldn't mind more of a break myself.</p><p></p><p>First off, shouldn't our grandsons FATHER been the one asking for more visitation???? He acts like a little boy and has his mama do all his bidding. I kid you not.</p><p></p><p>Other grandma asks the facilitator when can they have more visitation? Facilitator said they should have asked in court and either they would have to wait until the next court hearing in Jan. or they could ask an attorney to call a special session. Then she learns that our grandson is in "relative care" and that the parents should have easy access to their child.</p><p></p><p>In the beginning, I allowed the father to come to my home to visit and then when he was given unsupervised, I allowed him to pick up and drop off at my home. It actually caused me more work because I had to drive back and forth to and from daycare to facilitate his visitation. I did that. Until.................. One day he came to pick up his son for visitation. I happened to watch as they went to the car and saw that he brought extra passengers that took up EVERY single seat in the car. I told him that he could not take his son without having a seat and a seat belt for him. It just so happened that my difficult child was here, so my grandson's dad decided to put his son in the car with my difficult child who is not allowed unsupervised visitation. So, I stepped out and told them that could not happen. Well, the dad started in with F this and F that mad, angry, cussing and carrying on. The other grandma, his mother was in his car and was yelling out the windows at her son. I went to my grandson who was holding his fathers hand, took his hand and told him we were going in and there would not be a visitation. The father was pulling on his son and begged me to give him a second chance. I told him that that was unacceptable behavior and if he did not leave my property that I would call the police. They left.</p><p></p><p>The CPS caseworker told the facilitator that they did not have more visitation and not at my house because the father had an incident at my home. The facilitator said, there you go, that is what happens. The other grandma pipes up and says, there was fault on both sides. I said "excuse me"?!</p><p></p><p>I did not continue with the other grandma. That woman makes me so angry! I can't believe it, but man! I really think I could become physical with her and that is so not my style.</p><p></p><p>That family is angry with me! They actually looked at me and said they were angry that our grandson in now on medication. Guess why??? They don't believe in it, he didn't need it and the best one of all.......... we didn't ask their permission!</p><p></p><p>I am also being blamed because....................... their son is not very excited to see them and doesn't really care when they leave. Well DUH! What do you expect when you only come once a week to see your child and you don't even bother to call him, ever!</p><p></p><p>They also said that our grandson told them that he does not want to come back to our home and he doesn't like his school and wants to go with his dad. Okay. I just witnessed the CPS worker asking our grandson yesterday which was his favorite home to live at, ours, his dads or his moms. The answer was ours. His therapist has told the CPS caseworker that our grandson is very attached to me, and I know he is, and that he now considers our family HIS family. I have told all of them that while I am happy that he fees loved and comfortable in our home, we really need to help him accept that someday he will go back home. I have asked the CPS caseworker to give them more visitation, so that our grandson WILL have more ties with his father. That won't happen until they can keep their home clean and take care of their therapy issues, etc.</p><p></p><p>They are angry with us??????????????? We have bent over backwards trying to accommodate them, I have taken our grandson to school, picked him up, to weekly therapy appts., the psychiatrist, medical and dental appts. bathed him, fed him, loved him, protected him, enjoyed him, read to him, played with him, taught him, disciplined him and have not been on a date or to dinner or alone with just my husband for the last 6 months and they are angry with me?????????? Grrrr. There. Now, maybe I can get to sleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 209756, member: 30"] I'm still pretty riled up about that meeting, so I will just vent here. I guess I should have titled my post more appropriately. Our grandsons other grandmother, dad's mother, was very, very vocal during that meeting. She kept on and on about wanting more visitation and how two hours a week just wasn't enough. As a grandmother I understand that. And as a grandmother with custody, I wouldn't mind more of a break myself. First off, shouldn't our grandsons FATHER been the one asking for more visitation???? He acts like a little boy and has his mama do all his bidding. I kid you not. Other grandma asks the facilitator when can they have more visitation? Facilitator said they should have asked in court and either they would have to wait until the next court hearing in Jan. or they could ask an attorney to call a special session. Then she learns that our grandson is in "relative care" and that the parents should have easy access to their child. In the beginning, I allowed the father to come to my home to visit and then when he was given unsupervised, I allowed him to pick up and drop off at my home. It actually caused me more work because I had to drive back and forth to and from daycare to facilitate his visitation. I did that. Until.................. One day he came to pick up his son for visitation. I happened to watch as they went to the car and saw that he brought extra passengers that took up EVERY single seat in the car. I told him that he could not take his son without having a seat and a seat belt for him. It just so happened that my difficult child was here, so my grandson's dad decided to put his son in the car with my difficult child who is not allowed unsupervised visitation. So, I stepped out and told them that could not happen. Well, the dad started in with F this and F that mad, angry, cussing and carrying on. The other grandma, his mother was in his car and was yelling out the windows at her son. I went to my grandson who was holding his fathers hand, took his hand and told him we were going in and there would not be a visitation. The father was pulling on his son and begged me to give him a second chance. I told him that that was unacceptable behavior and if he did not leave my property that I would call the police. They left. The CPS caseworker told the facilitator that they did not have more visitation and not at my house because the father had an incident at my home. The facilitator said, there you go, that is what happens. The other grandma pipes up and says, there was fault on both sides. I said "excuse me"?! I did not continue with the other grandma. That woman makes me so angry! I can't believe it, but man! I really think I could become physical with her and that is so not my style. That family is angry with me! They actually looked at me and said they were angry that our grandson in now on medication. Guess why??? They don't believe in it, he didn't need it and the best one of all.......... we didn't ask their permission! I am also being blamed because....................... their son is not very excited to see them and doesn't really care when they leave. Well DUH! What do you expect when you only come once a week to see your child and you don't even bother to call him, ever! They also said that our grandson told them that he does not want to come back to our home and he doesn't like his school and wants to go with his dad. Okay. I just witnessed the CPS worker asking our grandson yesterday which was his favorite home to live at, ours, his dads or his moms. The answer was ours. His therapist has told the CPS caseworker that our grandson is very attached to me, and I know he is, and that he now considers our family HIS family. I have told all of them that while I am happy that he fees loved and comfortable in our home, we really need to help him accept that someday he will go back home. I have asked the CPS caseworker to give them more visitation, so that our grandson WILL have more ties with his father. That won't happen until they can keep their home clean and take care of their therapy issues, etc. They are angry with us??????????????? We have bent over backwards trying to accommodate them, I have taken our grandson to school, picked him up, to weekly therapy appts., the psychiatrist, medical and dental appts. bathed him, fed him, loved him, protected him, enjoyed him, read to him, played with him, taught him, disciplined him and have not been on a date or to dinner or alone with just my husband for the last 6 months and they are angry with me?????????? Grrrr. There. Now, maybe I can get to sleep. [/QUOTE]
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