Hi I am new here. I just "found" this site and I am hoping I can find some answers and help! I have been having a lot of trouble with my 9 year old son. He has been diagnosis with ADHD and Trichotillomania. He currently takes Concerta and Clonidine. He's been on them for years. We recently had him on Strattera and things were going much better but we had to stop immediately after he began having suicidal thoughts. He also tried Adderall but was taken off of it after complains from his school. (Fighting, falling out of his seat, not listening, no consequences, etc) My main problem (that I can not tolerate no more) is him peeing in his room. But he also lies, steals, destruction, food hoarding, peeing in his room, putting holes in his wall, etc He has control issues. He don't have a care in the world about any of the punishments we try. He has no consequences for any of the things he does. He often acts like he should be treated like an adult and it's unacceptable how we are treating him. He has made up lies about being abuse. He often will tell my mother things just so she will come back and "yell" at me. Which I will not tolerate from my mother but that is a different story) Often (mostly in the morning) he will act very goofy while destroying things. Much like a puppy would do. When he see that it bothers us or we tell him to stop, he smiles or giggles and continues to do it. Recently, he started covering his mouth or look away still making it clear that he is laughing. It feels like he is laughing at his authority and pretty much saying I don't have to listen to you, I will not listen to you, and there is nothing you can do to change that. He hoards food (he has NOT been neglected ever and he is allowed to eat but we limit his junk food like most parents do) He Sneaks/steals candy and junk food. Takes and Eats entire box of cereal & poptarts at a time. Then hides the wrappers & packaging. I've even caught him taking weapons or potential weapons into his room such as kitchen knifes, scissors, metal emery boards & fingernail clippers. He Pees in his room, down the vent, or out of the window. When asked why he replies with MANY different excuses. - I had to go and couldn't make it to the bathroom in time. - I didn't think you would let me go. (He's aloud to go when ever he wants) - The famous "I don't know" - Or just will deny he did so. He will start a hole on his wall and pick at it until an entire section of the wall is missing. He throws the wall remains on the wall along with spit wads. We do do make him spend much time in his room. It's for sleeping purposes only. He just don't sleep much and will either stay awake at night or wake up at the crack of dawn. He does have a doorbell chime on his door. A counselor had us put in on his door after he was roaming (sneaking) around the house freely while we were sleeping in the middle of the night and after several close calls of him hurting his little sister. It's been on there for about 4 years. Though we have taken in down several times on trail bases. He will pee on things such as toys, covers, the bed (while awake), electronics, down the vent, out windows. He will destroy other peoples things (such as his little sisters) He will either take or talk her into letting him borrow stuff. Then he destroys it. Examples: Pulls heads off dolls, cuts there hair off, Rips holes in things, Pees on stuff. 9 out of 10 times this stuff happens at home. Outside of the home he appears to be a well behaved, well mannered child. I often get complements on how well behaved my children are. He will however, do these things occasionally at other "home" like places such as his Grandmothers house. He had some "abuse" while he was in child care when he was 4 years old. This was a short term (less than 2 weeks) before I discovered what was going on and removed him from the center immediately. I have had him in counseling and seeing doctors for along time. I've tried several different parenting techniques. I am now at my whits end with my son and don't know what else to do!