Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Maybe you can help
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 249196" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Sorry you had to find us MMI but glad you did. This place is a total sanity saver! (and comedy central, strong absorbent shoulders.....anything you can imagine...we've pretty much got it)</p><p></p><p>Wow...you definately have your hands full. Before I go further...you may want to check out the FAQ page if you haven't already. We have developed our own language here and that page will fill you in on the lingo and many more questions you may have. </p><p></p><p>Ok, so.....some of the things your son does I have experience with and some I don't so take what you can from my response and pfffft the rest. LOL Actually I am considering just copying Star's response...she covered quite a lot of good ideas. </p><p></p><p>The food issues? Yep....lock stuff up. It hoovers (this board self censors so some words like s u c k get ****'d out) to live that way, I know, but it is a necessity. When I come home from the grocery store, I put some stuff away in the kitchen and some away in my bedroom. Just as an example, all food stuffs that go in my room would include: cookies, chips, soda, cake, cereal, pop tarts, snacks of all non-refrigerated kinds....basically anything that would get eaten in a day or two. Even when I buy things that have to be refrigerated, I have to try to hide them or use/consume them almost immediately. Still other things.....well, we do what we can but there are items that we either do without or buy frequently. (I bought some cookie dough once and found half of it in the trash the next day. My son apparently thought I would buy the idea that the DOG opened the frig, got it out, knawed on it awhile and son discovered this and threw it away. Riiiiiiiiight. Nope...son decided that since it had been in the frig for 18 hours, I wasn't going to use it which made it fair game so he ate what he wanted, let the dog chew on it for teeth marks to cover his brilliant story and then tossed what was left.) So yeah, I've been there done that and still am. But, by locking it up, we mean REALLY locking it up. (Don't worry about CPS coming in and labeling you as neglectful parents either. It's not like you are locking up ALL the food, just the "junk" food.) Don't bother with a flimsy lockbox or even a key doorknob lock on your bedroom door. They are pointless.....easy to break into. We tried the doorknob route and our room was broken into TWICE before we broke down and installed a deadbolt on our bedroom door. It is locked at all times when we aren't in it or are out of sight of it and we even sleep with it locked. Also locked in our room are possessions that we want to keep from getting destroyed/used without permission/taken apart/etc. I have a little cady that I keep my bathroom stuff in (shampoo, conditioner, body wash, etc.) and carry it to the bathroom every morning and then take back to my room when I'm done. Otherwise, my son will play with it. (And did I mention that he's EIGHTEEN???) I don't buy things for my house that aren't useful because I know they will just get ruined in one way or another. Anything I buy that we actually need, I go relatively cheap because there is no point in getting the "good" stuff while difficult child is still here.</p><p></p><p>As for the stealing....we do periodic "inspections" of difficult child's room. He's a big one for "finding" things around the house and confiscating them for his own use or amusement. We also have been known to have him turn his pockets out before we leave places and check his backpack. Kind of like Star said in relation to the lying....if you have a thief...you have a thief. I would love to tell you that we found a way to curtail it but we haven't. difficult child has been in court more than once for theft and even that hasn't stopped him. </p><p></p><p>Seeing as how I've now written almost a book and I could go on and on and on...I think that pretty much covers most of my experience with what you're going through. Just know that you are not alone here, we don't judge and most importantly....WE GET IT!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 249196, member: 2459"] Sorry you had to find us MMI but glad you did. This place is a total sanity saver! (and comedy central, strong absorbent shoulders.....anything you can imagine...we've pretty much got it) Wow...you definately have your hands full. Before I go further...you may want to check out the FAQ page if you haven't already. We have developed our own language here and that page will fill you in on the lingo and many more questions you may have. Ok, so.....some of the things your son does I have experience with and some I don't so take what you can from my response and pfffft the rest. LOL Actually I am considering just copying Star's response...she covered quite a lot of good ideas. The food issues? Yep....lock stuff up. It hoovers (this board self censors so some words like s u c k get ****'d out) to live that way, I know, but it is a necessity. When I come home from the grocery store, I put some stuff away in the kitchen and some away in my bedroom. Just as an example, all food stuffs that go in my room would include: cookies, chips, soda, cake, cereal, pop tarts, snacks of all non-refrigerated kinds....basically anything that would get eaten in a day or two. Even when I buy things that have to be refrigerated, I have to try to hide them or use/consume them almost immediately. Still other things.....well, we do what we can but there are items that we either do without or buy frequently. (I bought some cookie dough once and found half of it in the trash the next day. My son apparently thought I would buy the idea that the DOG opened the frig, got it out, knawed on it awhile and son discovered this and threw it away. Riiiiiiiiight. Nope...son decided that since it had been in the frig for 18 hours, I wasn't going to use it which made it fair game so he ate what he wanted, let the dog chew on it for teeth marks to cover his brilliant story and then tossed what was left.) So yeah, I've been there done that and still am. But, by locking it up, we mean REALLY locking it up. (Don't worry about CPS coming in and labeling you as neglectful parents either. It's not like you are locking up ALL the food, just the "junk" food.) Don't bother with a flimsy lockbox or even a key doorknob lock on your bedroom door. They are pointless.....easy to break into. We tried the doorknob route and our room was broken into TWICE before we broke down and installed a deadbolt on our bedroom door. It is locked at all times when we aren't in it or are out of sight of it and we even sleep with it locked. Also locked in our room are possessions that we want to keep from getting destroyed/used without permission/taken apart/etc. I have a little cady that I keep my bathroom stuff in (shampoo, conditioner, body wash, etc.) and carry it to the bathroom every morning and then take back to my room when I'm done. Otherwise, my son will play with it. (And did I mention that he's EIGHTEEN???) I don't buy things for my house that aren't useful because I know they will just get ruined in one way or another. Anything I buy that we actually need, I go relatively cheap because there is no point in getting the "good" stuff while difficult child is still here. As for the stealing....we do periodic "inspections" of difficult child's room. He's a big one for "finding" things around the house and confiscating them for his own use or amusement. We also have been known to have him turn his pockets out before we leave places and check his backpack. Kind of like Star said in relation to the lying....if you have a thief...you have a thief. I would love to tell you that we found a way to curtail it but we haven't. difficult child has been in court more than once for theft and even that hasn't stopped him. Seeing as how I've now written almost a book and I could go on and on and on...I think that pretty much covers most of my experience with what you're going through. Just know that you are not alone here, we don't judge and most importantly....WE GET IT! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Maybe you can help
Top