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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 217951" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>Well of course it is your fault! You are the Mom! Sorry it is so tough and because he loves you and feels safe, you are the one that gets all of the BS.</p><p></p><p>We started letting K and N know, in a nice way, that EVERYTHING is ours! Not theirs, but Mom and Dad's. </p><p>They are a part of this family, but Dad works very hard to pay for this stuff and let's them have a room. It is OUR room and can stay in it as long as they follow the rules. </p><p>The *stuff* is our *stuff* ALL of IT! </p><p>We are the bosses, we will work with them on decisions and making family choices etc. But we own everything and make all of the rules. </p><p>K was OK with this, N was a bit um, taken aback!</p><p>So now if they are not showing that they are responsible enough or taking care of something. We take back our (stuffed animal, for example) and tell them they can have it back when they can take care of our toys. </p><p>They are allowed to have them and use them and play with them. But they will lose them if they are not treated well. </p><p>K lost her scissors and crayons without supervision. She was cutting her clothes and drawing on the floor and bed. </p><p>She lost her door also before.</p><p>We told her they were ours and she was treating them the way she should, dangerous and ruining our room. </p><p></p><p>We keep it as mostly it is a family but if it comes to a showdown... Dad works his butt off, Dad is taking his things back!</p><p>It works for the most part. Even things they bought with allowance, because we gave it to them. Or we let someone give them something....You can put your own spin on it.</p><p></p><p>Just an idea</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 217951, member: 3155"] Well of course it is your fault! You are the Mom! Sorry it is so tough and because he loves you and feels safe, you are the one that gets all of the BS. We started letting K and N know, in a nice way, that EVERYTHING is ours! Not theirs, but Mom and Dad's. They are a part of this family, but Dad works very hard to pay for this stuff and let's them have a room. It is OUR room and can stay in it as long as they follow the rules. The *stuff* is our *stuff* ALL of IT! We are the bosses, we will work with them on decisions and making family choices etc. But we own everything and make all of the rules. K was OK with this, N was a bit um, taken aback! So now if they are not showing that they are responsible enough or taking care of something. We take back our (stuffed animal, for example) and tell them they can have it back when they can take care of our toys. They are allowed to have them and use them and play with them. But they will lose them if they are not treated well. K lost her scissors and crayons without supervision. She was cutting her clothes and drawing on the floor and bed. She lost her door also before. We told her they were ours and she was treating them the way she should, dangerous and ruining our room. We keep it as mostly it is a family but if it comes to a showdown... Dad works his butt off, Dad is taking his things back! It works for the most part. Even things they bought with allowance, because we gave it to them. Or we let someone give them something....You can put your own spin on it. Just an idea [/QUOTE]
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