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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 744222" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>I think we might have had a major breakthrough today (way too early to get any sense of optimism though) My son, after leaving, came back around 10 as my husband was leaving for work. He (my husband) delayed leaving for work until he felt sure I was safe, bless him. At any rate, over the course of the day my son pretty much bared his soul. I assume he was being truthful when he told me that he and the ex were using on their little vacation and that he has been using nearly every day since the ex left. Judging by his irrational and jittery behavior, I had a hunch all along that that was part of it. And I told him once and for all that he cannot be here if he is high or using the night before. This is not his crash pad to "sleep it off" and my husband and I have a zero tolerance policy in our home. Since there is no way I can know for certain, I will not let him in if there is any indication of drug use, or if he is here and I pick up on it, he will be asked to leave as soon as I do, and he will not be allowed back into our home even for a meal for an indeterminate period of time.</p><p></p><p>I am also terrified for him because he seems to be suffering from paranoid delusion. For the last year he has been telling me that the police in Chicago have had him under surveillance (I'm not sure what for), and now he is saying the FBI is continuing to watch him here in Florida. I have no idea what crimes he may (or may not) have committed but it all stems from some paranoid notion he has about the ex...which makes it all the more ludicrous that he would even give the ex the time of day. But I digress. He seemed to calm down as we spoke and expressed an intention and desire to go to one of the detox facilities in the area. I persuaded him to stay here until my husband got home from work. He expressed sincere gratitude to my husband and me and broke down in tears a few times. He then left to go to the police station and see if there was a warrant for his arrest (I'm certain there is not, but maybe that will help him realize that it's paranoia) and that after that, presuming he didn't get arrested for anything, he was getting a friend to drive him to the detox.</p><p></p><p>Nothing that he did or said today is guaranteed to fix anything, and likely won't, but right now it's all I've got to hold onto. Oh and he also suggested that my husband and I write out a set of ground rules pertaining to his visitation in our home, which I was already going to do, but nice to hear it from him. I will be working on that tonight or tomorrow with my husband. I don't know when I'll hear from my son again but hopefully he will keep me posted as to his whereabouts and situation or at least his safety. All I can do now at this point is pray.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 744222, member: 22877"] I think we might have had a major breakthrough today (way too early to get any sense of optimism though) My son, after leaving, came back around 10 as my husband was leaving for work. He (my husband) delayed leaving for work until he felt sure I was safe, bless him. At any rate, over the course of the day my son pretty much bared his soul. I assume he was being truthful when he told me that he and the ex were using on their little vacation and that he has been using nearly every day since the ex left. Judging by his irrational and jittery behavior, I had a hunch all along that that was part of it. And I told him once and for all that he cannot be here if he is high or using the night before. This is not his crash pad to "sleep it off" and my husband and I have a zero tolerance policy in our home. Since there is no way I can know for certain, I will not let him in if there is any indication of drug use, or if he is here and I pick up on it, he will be asked to leave as soon as I do, and he will not be allowed back into our home even for a meal for an indeterminate period of time. I am also terrified for him because he seems to be suffering from paranoid delusion. For the last year he has been telling me that the police in Chicago have had him under surveillance (I'm not sure what for), and now he is saying the FBI is continuing to watch him here in Florida. I have no idea what crimes he may (or may not) have committed but it all stems from some paranoid notion he has about the ex...which makes it all the more ludicrous that he would even give the ex the time of day. But I digress. He seemed to calm down as we spoke and expressed an intention and desire to go to one of the detox facilities in the area. I persuaded him to stay here until my husband got home from work. He expressed sincere gratitude to my husband and me and broke down in tears a few times. He then left to go to the police station and see if there was a warrant for his arrest (I'm certain there is not, but maybe that will help him realize that it's paranoia) and that after that, presuming he didn't get arrested for anything, he was getting a friend to drive him to the detox. Nothing that he did or said today is guaranteed to fix anything, and likely won't, but right now it's all I've got to hold onto. Oh and he also suggested that my husband and I write out a set of ground rules pertaining to his visitation in our home, which I was already going to do, but nice to hear it from him. I will be working on that tonight or tomorrow with my husband. I don't know when I'll hear from my son again but hopefully he will keep me posted as to his whereabouts and situation or at least his safety. All I can do now at this point is pray. [/QUOTE]
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