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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 257965" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Nomad, I completely agree with this idea, and think it's very profound.</p><p>Knowing that I got to choose whether to be like them or not like them gave me the strength to walk away from my difficult child-family. First mentally, then later on, physically.</p><p></p><p>And this is something I try to teach difficult child every time we talk. He can't control what others do or how they treat him, but he can choose how he reacts or responds, and doing so, he might be able to change how people treat him the next time.</p><p></p><p>I think, though, that there are unconscious effects that result from the experiences we've had in dealing with our difficult children. When we not even aware of a behaviour or a reaction, some of the PTSD stuff that a lot of us suffer, it's hard to be mindful of or to change those things. Those are some of the scars. So...the next step is treating the scars, trying to soften some of the scar tissue and make it more malleable in an effort to gain some control or mindfulness over our reactions to it. It's a long, hard road.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 257965, member: 3907"] Nomad, I completely agree with this idea, and think it's very profound. Knowing that I got to choose whether to be like them or not like them gave me the strength to walk away from my difficult child-family. First mentally, then later on, physically. And this is something I try to teach difficult child every time we talk. He can't control what others do or how they treat him, but he can choose how he reacts or responds, and doing so, he might be able to change how people treat him the next time. I think, though, that there are unconscious effects that result from the experiences we've had in dealing with our difficult children. When we not even aware of a behaviour or a reaction, some of the PTSD stuff that a lot of us suffer, it's hard to be mindful of or to change those things. Those are some of the scars. So...the next step is treating the scars, trying to soften some of the scar tissue and make it more malleable in an effort to gain some control or mindfulness over our reactions to it. It's a long, hard road. [/QUOTE]
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