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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 412582" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't agree Malika. If a person is mentally ill in my opinion there is no other way. The medications may have consequences, but constant mental illness can be worse. The suicide rate in mentally ill people is astronomical. I was very suicidal myself and know first hand. No therapy worked. Nothing.</p><p></p><p> I went for years and years and my parents made me feel ashamed to be taking medications when I finally admitted I had to...to the point where I was scared to death than they would find out. Finally I just told them and they knew, by the way that I told them, that they could accept it or forget about me. The medications allowed me to function somewhat. When I found the right medications, I lived a normal life for the first time ever. I think of my medication as if I had diabetes. I need them. Malika I gently say this...in my opinion you are making the same mistake as Jena's mother. YOU are so afraid of drugs and the stigma, that you won't consider it.I do not know if your son needs them or if he does not, but you shut off really good options by refusing to consider them at all. medications can be the difference between a functional life and a wasted one. Maybe it's a cultural difference between France and the US, but in my opinion it is best to keep an open mind. If you are THAT against medications, don't give them to your boy, but don't tell us what is right/wrong. This is a support board. thank you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Back to the mom. Jena, let it go in one ear and out the other. in my opinion (having the same issues as you once) it is best just to shut down the conversation. This is what I told them: "We can talk about anything you like EXCEPT medication. If you do speak about it, I am telling you in advance I will hang up the phone quietly or leave the room or shut down. I will NOT discuss it with you." And then you have to do it. It's very effective. You don't have to be rude. You don't have to raise your voice. but you are under SO MUCH stress, you don't need Mom adding to it. Honestly, I don't understand parents like that. You'd think they take it personally! Most mental illness is inherited. it is not helped by bad parenting, but good parenting can not usually stop impending bipolar etc. either. Do not even give THAT a thought. You are not abusing your kids...you are doing all that you can for them. Do not engage your mom in this topic because she wants a soapbox and she sounds stubborn...she isn't going to listen to you. Big hugs and support from moi :_)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 412582, member: 1550"] I don't agree Malika. If a person is mentally ill in my opinion there is no other way. The medications may have consequences, but constant mental illness can be worse. The suicide rate in mentally ill people is astronomical. I was very suicidal myself and know first hand. No therapy worked. Nothing. I went for years and years and my parents made me feel ashamed to be taking medications when I finally admitted I had to...to the point where I was scared to death than they would find out. Finally I just told them and they knew, by the way that I told them, that they could accept it or forget about me. The medications allowed me to function somewhat. When I found the right medications, I lived a normal life for the first time ever. I think of my medication as if I had diabetes. I need them. Malika I gently say this...in my opinion you are making the same mistake as Jena's mother. YOU are so afraid of drugs and the stigma, that you won't consider it.I do not know if your son needs them or if he does not, but you shut off really good options by refusing to consider them at all. medications can be the difference between a functional life and a wasted one. Maybe it's a cultural difference between France and the US, but in my opinion it is best to keep an open mind. If you are THAT against medications, don't give them to your boy, but don't tell us what is right/wrong. This is a support board. thank you :) Back to the mom. Jena, let it go in one ear and out the other. in my opinion (having the same issues as you once) it is best just to shut down the conversation. This is what I told them: "We can talk about anything you like EXCEPT medication. If you do speak about it, I am telling you in advance I will hang up the phone quietly or leave the room or shut down. I will NOT discuss it with you." And then you have to do it. It's very effective. You don't have to be rude. You don't have to raise your voice. but you are under SO MUCH stress, you don't need Mom adding to it. Honestly, I don't understand parents like that. You'd think they take it personally! Most mental illness is inherited. it is not helped by bad parenting, but good parenting can not usually stop impending bipolar etc. either. Do not even give THAT a thought. You are not abusing your kids...you are doing all that you can for them. Do not engage your mom in this topic because she wants a soapbox and she sounds stubborn...she isn't going to listen to you. Big hugs and support from moi :_) [/QUOTE]
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