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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 226490" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Oh Christy, Hugs - It truly is a heartbreak when our kids react this way to gifts. It seems so rude and disrespectful. It is so hurtful.</p><p></p><p>Something that may help a little bit? Remember, he is still living in his own world. Everything is done for him and he expects all his needs and wants to be fulfilled. Many kids are like that - even easy child's. We would think that as they head toward their wonderful teenage years, they would mature a little and think of others but I do believe the reason for many teenage battles is because they really are still in their own self centered world and adults try to get them to behave otherwise.</p><p></p><p>The other thing to remember is that for kids, Christmas may well be the most dreamed of Holiday (even more than their own birthday). The kids have built up their dreams of a perfect holiday. They have trouble separating reality from fantasy and when the moment of truth arrives causing the two to collide, kids don't know how to graciously accept that reality is different than fantasy.</p><p></p><p>Try not to take this personally. I don't think difficult child really understands yet how he is hurting you. He can only see himself. Once we open our gifts, the magic of Christmas ends with nothing else to look forward to. He was looking for the WOW factor which isn't always possible to give or even to recognize.</p><p></p><p>You put a lot of work into making Christmas special for your family. Someday difficult child may see that the love others put into his life is what makes the gifts and times special not the actual item that will be forgotten in years to come.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 226490, member: 5096"] Oh Christy, Hugs - It truly is a heartbreak when our kids react this way to gifts. It seems so rude and disrespectful. It is so hurtful. Something that may help a little bit? Remember, he is still living in his own world. Everything is done for him and he expects all his needs and wants to be fulfilled. Many kids are like that - even easy child's. We would think that as they head toward their wonderful teenage years, they would mature a little and think of others but I do believe the reason for many teenage battles is because they really are still in their own self centered world and adults try to get them to behave otherwise. The other thing to remember is that for kids, Christmas may well be the most dreamed of Holiday (even more than their own birthday). The kids have built up their dreams of a perfect holiday. They have trouble separating reality from fantasy and when the moment of truth arrives causing the two to collide, kids don't know how to graciously accept that reality is different than fantasy. Try not to take this personally. I don't think difficult child really understands yet how he is hurting you. He can only see himself. Once we open our gifts, the magic of Christmas ends with nothing else to look forward to. He was looking for the WOW factor which isn't always possible to give or even to recognize. You put a lot of work into making Christmas special for your family. Someday difficult child may see that the love others put into his life is what makes the gifts and times special not the actual item that will be forgotten in years to come. [/QUOTE]
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