I feel like I have been on an uncontrollable roller coaster ride. My oldest moved to follow his girlfriend to a neighboring state approximately 2 months ago. He had burned through all of the people, resources and help available in our town. The move was actually working out a little better for him as the other state is more liberal in what resources are available to the homeless there. Anyway, in mid Dec, he texted that things were not going well and then disappeared from contact from everyone. He resurfaced finally after I and his girlfriend filed a missing persons report.
During this time I finally got confirmation from the girlfriend that they had been using meth ( shooting up) together and that's why she had moved home to her parents to clean up her life. Husband and I had always suspected he was using again, he had used from 18-24 when he was arrested and completed work camp and probation. But after about 10 years together he and his girlfriend broke up and His life fell apart and that's when we suspect he started using meth again. That was 3 years ago and it has been downhill from that time. Hospitals, police, mania, psychosis, homelessness, loss of relationships with family and friends, etc.
Anyway, he was picked up and placed in jail there as he had an extraditable warrant issued after he left our state. While in jail there he was put on lithium and after 4 weeks was somewhat clearheaded. They finally brought him back to our state a week ago Friday and a week ago I received a call from him at 8:30 at night saying they had released him on a OR bond. They brought him back on Friday and released him Monday?.. They didn't bring any of his belongings with him, not a coat, clothing ID, money nothing, nor did they continue or give him medicine that was obviously helping him.. My husband and I agreed he could stay a a few days until his payee could pay for a room somewhere. During this time he admitted that the judge released him to stay at my house until his next court date which was a month away. He is not to leave the state as a condition of his bond. I was floored that the judge gave him the condition to stay with me without verifying that this was acceptable to my husband and myself.
He made it 3 days until his payee sent him $50 for a few clothes and an ID. He didn't come back that night and the next day showed up at my house manic and was asked to leave. I contacted the court and told them that he was not staying here and had no place to go and they should know he was trying to go back to the state they had just brought him back from. They wanted me to call the police, the prosecuting attorney, etc.mind you he is a 34 year old man that they brought back here then released to my home without even bothering to check with me and see if that was even an option. How did this become my responsibility? I had nothing to do with bringing him back here.
Fast forward to 5:45 am Sunday morning and I wake up to a phone call from him from the hospital. He was delusional, admitted he had been using pot and meth but believed he had been poisoned and that we had been at the hospital with him. He thought he had been beat in the head, had fluid drained from his head, had a metal plate placed in his chest and other equally bizarre beliefs. My husband and I decided to go to the hospital to find out what was going on as they usually treat him in the ER and never place him in a room. When we got there he was in his hospital room talking to a police detective who he called to report his "poisoning". His nurse said Difficult Child gave her permission to share his medical condition with us so we were informed he had OD'd on meth. He wandered into a pizza place here, sick and asking for an ambulance to be called.
Now he's in jail for being in possession of a controlled substance and resisting arrest (he was not happy that the police he called to report the poisoning arrested him instead) and he was still delusional and combative from the meth overdose. He called yesterday saying they had set bond at $500 and wanted his payee called to bond him out. Of course I said no and I made it clear to the policeman that he was not staying at my house if they released him. How the holy he** can the court justify the time and expense in bring a homeless mentally ill/meth using person back here. Stop his lithium, release him to his mothers house with out even checking with me, OR him, know he's using and ODing an planning on going back to the state they just extradited him from, and then set his bond at $500? The kicker is he has a hearing today to reset bond lower or OR him again. I am worried if he gets released it will start all over again and he might die this time. What a mess. It is obvious that the system is broken. This is making me ill.
During this time I finally got confirmation from the girlfriend that they had been using meth ( shooting up) together and that's why she had moved home to her parents to clean up her life. Husband and I had always suspected he was using again, he had used from 18-24 when he was arrested and completed work camp and probation. But after about 10 years together he and his girlfriend broke up and His life fell apart and that's when we suspect he started using meth again. That was 3 years ago and it has been downhill from that time. Hospitals, police, mania, psychosis, homelessness, loss of relationships with family and friends, etc.
Anyway, he was picked up and placed in jail there as he had an extraditable warrant issued after he left our state. While in jail there he was put on lithium and after 4 weeks was somewhat clearheaded. They finally brought him back to our state a week ago Friday and a week ago I received a call from him at 8:30 at night saying they had released him on a OR bond. They brought him back on Friday and released him Monday?.. They didn't bring any of his belongings with him, not a coat, clothing ID, money nothing, nor did they continue or give him medicine that was obviously helping him.. My husband and I agreed he could stay a a few days until his payee could pay for a room somewhere. During this time he admitted that the judge released him to stay at my house until his next court date which was a month away. He is not to leave the state as a condition of his bond. I was floored that the judge gave him the condition to stay with me without verifying that this was acceptable to my husband and myself.
He made it 3 days until his payee sent him $50 for a few clothes and an ID. He didn't come back that night and the next day showed up at my house manic and was asked to leave. I contacted the court and told them that he was not staying here and had no place to go and they should know he was trying to go back to the state they had just brought him back from. They wanted me to call the police, the prosecuting attorney, etc.mind you he is a 34 year old man that they brought back here then released to my home without even bothering to check with me and see if that was even an option. How did this become my responsibility? I had nothing to do with bringing him back here.
Fast forward to 5:45 am Sunday morning and I wake up to a phone call from him from the hospital. He was delusional, admitted he had been using pot and meth but believed he had been poisoned and that we had been at the hospital with him. He thought he had been beat in the head, had fluid drained from his head, had a metal plate placed in his chest and other equally bizarre beliefs. My husband and I decided to go to the hospital to find out what was going on as they usually treat him in the ER and never place him in a room. When we got there he was in his hospital room talking to a police detective who he called to report his "poisoning". His nurse said Difficult Child gave her permission to share his medical condition with us so we were informed he had OD'd on meth. He wandered into a pizza place here, sick and asking for an ambulance to be called.
Now he's in jail for being in possession of a controlled substance and resisting arrest (he was not happy that the police he called to report the poisoning arrested him instead) and he was still delusional and combative from the meth overdose. He called yesterday saying they had set bond at $500 and wanted his payee called to bond him out. Of course I said no and I made it clear to the policeman that he was not staying at my house if they released him. How the holy he** can the court justify the time and expense in bring a homeless mentally ill/meth using person back here. Stop his lithium, release him to his mothers house with out even checking with me, OR him, know he's using and ODing an planning on going back to the state they just extradited him from, and then set his bond at $500? The kicker is he has a hearing today to reset bond lower or OR him again. I am worried if he gets released it will start all over again and he might die this time. What a mess. It is obvious that the system is broken. This is making me ill.