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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 192178" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>It's a difficult decision to make to send a child away. Heck I know people with easy child's that fall apart when the child goes off to college. </p><p></p><p>I hated the self torture I had going on in my head. I'm not good with the self flaggelation(sp?). It was about what was best for difficult child and not what was best for me or made me feel better. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt and still hurts at times. </p><p></p><p>You have taken a leap of faith for your son's well being. As an adult you have options of what to do with your sorrow and grief. You can redirect it in a productive way after this initial shock period. Talk to your friends. Do lots of things that keep you engaged and away from brooding alone. Remind yourself that you have made a huge sacrifice for your child's health and an opportunity to get his life on track and to live a fuller life than what he was living. </p><p></p><p>Other than that, each one of us deals with separation, grief and guilt differently. I think at the end you want to see yourself and difficult child coming out of this as healthier, balanced and productive. For me, keeping my eye on the long term goal helped me survive the sleepless nights.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 192178, member: 3"] It's a difficult decision to make to send a child away. Heck I know people with easy child's that fall apart when the child goes off to college. I hated the self torture I had going on in my head. I'm not good with the self flaggelation(sp?). It was about what was best for difficult child and not what was best for me or made me feel better. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt and still hurts at times. You have taken a leap of faith for your son's well being. As an adult you have options of what to do with your sorrow and grief. You can redirect it in a productive way after this initial shock period. Talk to your friends. Do lots of things that keep you engaged and away from brooding alone. Remind yourself that you have made a huge sacrifice for your child's health and an opportunity to get his life on track and to live a fuller life than what he was living. Other than that, each one of us deals with separation, grief and guilt differently. I think at the end you want to see yourself and difficult child coming out of this as healthier, balanced and productive. For me, keeping my eye on the long term goal helped me survive the sleepless nights. [/QUOTE]
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