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"Mom, I can't drive home right now..."
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 104391" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Miwest Mom has it right! The benefit of the doubt certainly does not work with these kids--if you give an inch they take a mile. I don't give her many kudos for calling instead of driving--she still was in the wrong and she probably thinks that since she called she deserves a gold star, ignoring that she was doing something illegal and dangerous in the first place.</p><p></p><p>If you look at the whole picture since she has moved back with you it isn't very encouraging. She is not standing on her own 2 feet, she is using you. I know because I have been there done that with my dtr so many times. She didn't quit using me til I quit helping her, period.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, just think you have to get super tough. I know it went against the grain for me--I am a "softie" and hate conflict but dtr forced me to be tough. Any time I felt sorry for her she played it to the hilt--I really had to fight those times when I felt sorry for her because it always backfired. I dealt with her best when I was angry or numb.</p><p></p><p>Good luck,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 104391, member: 3450"] Miwest Mom has it right! The benefit of the doubt certainly does not work with these kids--if you give an inch they take a mile. I don't give her many kudos for calling instead of driving--she still was in the wrong and she probably thinks that since she called she deserves a gold star, ignoring that she was doing something illegal and dangerous in the first place. If you look at the whole picture since she has moved back with you it isn't very encouraging. She is not standing on her own 2 feet, she is using you. I know because I have been there done that with my dtr so many times. She didn't quit using me til I quit helping her, period. Sorry, just think you have to get super tough. I know it went against the grain for me--I am a "softie" and hate conflict but dtr forced me to be tough. Any time I felt sorry for her she played it to the hilt--I really had to fight those times when I felt sorry for her because it always backfired. I dealt with her best when I was angry or numb. Good luck, Jane [/QUOTE]
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