Last night difficult child called me at 11PM (her agreed upon curfew time) and, sounding very blotto, said, "Mom I can't drive home right now." Me: "Why not? What's wrong with you?" difficult child: "I took a few too many tokes." Me: "That's excellent. Please wait a while and then come home when you feel up to it." difficult child never came home last night. She's home now, I just called her and told her we're going to talk when I go home for lunch at Noon. I have no idea what to say to her. Our agreement was that she can't drive under the influence of drugs or alcohol. So, on the one hand, at least she didn't drive while stoned out of her mind. But on the other hand, she's on medications and should not be doing any drugs anyway. I think she was doing more than smoking pot - I'm sure she had been drinking as well. She left the house yesterday at 8:15 AM and said she was picking up some of her [unemployed] friends and they were all going job hunting together. I told her most people did not dress in jeans and an oversized baggy sweatshirt or bring a posse with them to go job hunting. She rolled her eyes at me and split. Never called or responded to any of my messages. At 6PM H got a hold of her and asked where she was, what she was doing and reminded her that she needs to check in to let us know where she is. She said she was sorry and that she'd be home later. And then I got that call. I have many thoughts on what I want to say to her but I can't form a sentence. I think I want to print out a copy of our agreement letter and make her read it again. I want to take away her keys. H said I should not take away her keys and that whatever she's doing when she's not in the house we shouldn't nag her about - as long as she's calling home and coming home on time and not drunk or stoned while here, we should be quiet. She needs to find a job and she needs to do a lot of things, but I am at a loss as how to go about motivating her. Her main goal every single minute of every single day seems to be how soon she can be with Monkeyboy, who incidentally, is also unemployed and whose father took away his keys until he is employed. difficult child is the only one in her little gang who has a car. And now she's not employed and is running out of cash. I told H not to give her any money. He said he'd only give her money if she worked for it. As long as she has money she will drive back and forth to Monkeyboys' house, which is almost 30 miles round trip. I feel ill.