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"Mom, I can't drive home right now..."
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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 104424" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>It does get tricky when we try to get it into their heads that they should never drink or drug and drive, then they call us to say they can't, and we question whether to give consequences. I think it's a huge difference between dealing with this with a easy child, or a difficult child.</p><p>My easy child is going to be 18 and I have told her numerous times that I'm not stupid, I know kids her age will experiment and though I don't in any way condone it, I don't ever want her to hesitate to pick up the phone and call me or anyone else for a ride if she gets herself in a situation where she can't drive. I would much rather have her do that then get killed or kill someone else. Then I know I would be able to talk to her the next day about what she did and she would learn a lesson from it. To do this with a difficult child is almost like giving them permission to drink or drug and as long as they call and say they need a ride because we tell them to do that, they take it as permission to do it again the next time. </p><p>You were right to take away her keys. Tell her that when the car is in her name and the insurance, she can have them back and it is her responsibility then, not yours. </p><p></p><p>My easy child lost a 17 year old friend this summer because he drove drunk and wrapped himself around a telephone pole. Not a fun thing to deal with!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 104424, member: 2442"] It does get tricky when we try to get it into their heads that they should never drink or drug and drive, then they call us to say they can't, and we question whether to give consequences. I think it's a huge difference between dealing with this with a easy child, or a difficult child. My easy child is going to be 18 and I have told her numerous times that I'm not stupid, I know kids her age will experiment and though I don't in any way condone it, I don't ever want her to hesitate to pick up the phone and call me or anyone else for a ride if she gets herself in a situation where she can't drive. I would much rather have her do that then get killed or kill someone else. Then I know I would be able to talk to her the next day about what she did and she would learn a lesson from it. To do this with a difficult child is almost like giving them permission to drink or drug and as long as they call and say they need a ride because we tell them to do that, they take it as permission to do it again the next time. You were right to take away her keys. Tell her that when the car is in her name and the insurance, she can have them back and it is her responsibility then, not yours. My easy child lost a 17 year old friend this summer because he drove drunk and wrapped himself around a telephone pole. Not a fun thing to deal with!!! [/QUOTE]
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