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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 677121" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>I totally agree with SWOT, but need to add something more to what she said. First off, if you leave your house that only means that your son will either start or, more realistically, be more open about bringing his addict friends over. They will trash your home with drug parties. Your home will become a crash pad for druggies. There WILL be police involvement.</p><p></p><p>That being said, you also need to think about how culpable you might be for your sons actions. You said he has been in three accidents. Your vehicle? Your insurance? You need to consider the possibility that if he gets into another accident and seriously hurts or kills someone that you could face criminal charges because YOU made it possible for him to drive. I don't know where you live so have no idea what the local laws are but its definitely something to consider.</p><p></p><p>On the flipside of that coin, there are drugs in your house now. How much more will be there if you walk away and let him have the place? Again, I don't know the laws in your area but if the police raid and find a bunch of drugs its VERY possible that your house will be seized and sold. At a minimum, there will be drug dealers showing up on a regular basis and sometimes it will be to collect payment. If they know your son doesn't have the money they may well come after you. It does happen. It happened to a friend of ours just a couple of years ago.</p><p></p><p>I'm not trying to sound cold blooded here but kick him out. He is a grown man and NEEDS to start suffering the consequences of his poor choices. You aren't doing him or yourself any favors by continuing to fund this life style in any way, shape, or form. I know its not easy. My wife and I had to kick our son out because he was stealing from us to support his habit. Its been almost a year and a half and he is finally starting to get his act together but it has been a slow and painful process. Stay strong and get support, from here, from a counselor, from ALANON, or whatever you have available in your area.</p><p></p><p>Again, not trying to sound cold blooded but the only person who can stop your son from doing heroin is your son. He may well die from overdose. It happens on a disturbingly regular basis. I cant imagine how difficult it is to lose a child like that, but imagine that it would be one thousand times worse with the realization that you basically funded his suicide.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 677121, member: 18238"] I totally agree with SWOT, but need to add something more to what she said. First off, if you leave your house that only means that your son will either start or, more realistically, be more open about bringing his addict friends over. They will trash your home with drug parties. Your home will become a crash pad for druggies. There WILL be police involvement. That being said, you also need to think about how culpable you might be for your sons actions. You said he has been in three accidents. Your vehicle? Your insurance? You need to consider the possibility that if he gets into another accident and seriously hurts or kills someone that you could face criminal charges because YOU made it possible for him to drive. I don't know where you live so have no idea what the local laws are but its definitely something to consider. On the flipside of that coin, there are drugs in your house now. How much more will be there if you walk away and let him have the place? Again, I don't know the laws in your area but if the police raid and find a bunch of drugs its VERY possible that your house will be seized and sold. At a minimum, there will be drug dealers showing up on a regular basis and sometimes it will be to collect payment. If they know your son doesn't have the money they may well come after you. It does happen. It happened to a friend of ours just a couple of years ago. I'm not trying to sound cold blooded here but kick him out. He is a grown man and NEEDS to start suffering the consequences of his poor choices. You aren't doing him or yourself any favors by continuing to fund this life style in any way, shape, or form. I know its not easy. My wife and I had to kick our son out because he was stealing from us to support his habit. Its been almost a year and a half and he is finally starting to get his act together but it has been a slow and painful process. Stay strong and get support, from here, from a counselor, from ALANON, or whatever you have available in your area. Again, not trying to sound cold blooded but the only person who can stop your son from doing heroin is your son. He may well die from overdose. It happens on a disturbingly regular basis. I cant imagine how difficult it is to lose a child like that, but imagine that it would be one thousand times worse with the realization that you basically funded his suicide. [/QUOTE]
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