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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 552081" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Rumpole,</p><p></p><p>It appears as though both of your posts went through. We welcome anyone who is affected by substance abuse to post in our forum and it is certainly helpful to get the information on suboxone. Having said that I do have some thoughts on some of your other comments. When I said get clean or die I really made an error, the true quote was there are only three ways out, get clean, go to jail or die. Your success is certainly very rare and not typical of what we find with our difficult child's. I would venture to say none of them will end up in law school, many have had difficulty finishing high school. Also while it was great that your mum was able to get you out to excercise with her, most of our difficult child's are causing so much turmoil in our homes, are already involved in the legal system because of their abuse, and want nothing to do with us, in addition to calling us every disgusting name known to man.</p><p></p><p>I do believe you are coming from a much different place than many families with loved ones who are addicted. My story would take a very long time to tell and quite frankly I don't have the energy to do so right now, but the ONLY thing that got my difficult child into rehab was telling her that she could not come back home once she ran away to a drug house for six weeks and that we would support her in treatment but that was all. </p><p></p><p>You didn't say much about how you acted while on drugs living with your parents but let me assure you that we did not kick out daughter out of the house lightly. It was only after we had tried everything else possible. Strangely enough every treatment program we have been involved in told us the same thing, we had to draw the line in the sand which you do not agree with. I belong to two different support groups and almost every parent there had to ask their difficult child to leave at some point. </p><p></p><p>I wish my difficult child would go to law school. She can't even keep a job because she steals from every employer and abuses alcohol and pot 24/7 so even when she is there she isn't. You are assuming that all addicts are as intelligent and motivated as you are, that just isn't the reality. I'm very happy that you have ben able to put your life back together and that you didn't ruin your relationship with your family completely, but please have some compassion for those of us who do not have difficult children in the same position as yourself, and understand that when we do kick our difficult children out we do not do it because we do not care about them, we do it because we do care about them. From the group of people my difficult child was in treatment with at least eight of them have died from heroin overdose. I'm sure there were many more, these are just the ones I heard about. Several others are either currently in jail or have been. Some have stayed clean. I guess there probably are some who are still using and haven't died yet or been caught, but I think the quote is still valid.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 552081, member: 59"] Rumpole, It appears as though both of your posts went through. We welcome anyone who is affected by substance abuse to post in our forum and it is certainly helpful to get the information on suboxone. Having said that I do have some thoughts on some of your other comments. When I said get clean or die I really made an error, the true quote was there are only three ways out, get clean, go to jail or die. Your success is certainly very rare and not typical of what we find with our difficult child's. I would venture to say none of them will end up in law school, many have had difficulty finishing high school. Also while it was great that your mum was able to get you out to excercise with her, most of our difficult child's are causing so much turmoil in our homes, are already involved in the legal system because of their abuse, and want nothing to do with us, in addition to calling us every disgusting name known to man. I do believe you are coming from a much different place than many families with loved ones who are addicted. My story would take a very long time to tell and quite frankly I don't have the energy to do so right now, but the ONLY thing that got my difficult child into rehab was telling her that she could not come back home once she ran away to a drug house for six weeks and that we would support her in treatment but that was all. You didn't say much about how you acted while on drugs living with your parents but let me assure you that we did not kick out daughter out of the house lightly. It was only after we had tried everything else possible. Strangely enough every treatment program we have been involved in told us the same thing, we had to draw the line in the sand which you do not agree with. I belong to two different support groups and almost every parent there had to ask their difficult child to leave at some point. I wish my difficult child would go to law school. She can't even keep a job because she steals from every employer and abuses alcohol and pot 24/7 so even when she is there she isn't. You are assuming that all addicts are as intelligent and motivated as you are, that just isn't the reality. I'm very happy that you have ben able to put your life back together and that you didn't ruin your relationship with your family completely, but please have some compassion for those of us who do not have difficult children in the same position as yourself, and understand that when we do kick our difficult children out we do not do it because we do not care about them, we do it because we do care about them. From the group of people my difficult child was in treatment with at least eight of them have died from heroin overdose. I'm sure there were many more, these are just the ones I heard about. Several others are either currently in jail or have been. Some have stayed clean. I guess there probably are some who are still using and haven't died yet or been caught, but I think the quote is still valid. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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