Good Morning to everyone here. I hope I found the right place to some answers. My son will be 19 next month. He started abusing drugs about age 15-16, marijuana. Then he went to Xanax which he says he did to relieve his anxieties, which he does have, about a lot of things. He saw the school psychologist for two years in high school and I took him to a private psychologist for about 6 months. He has no motivation, just wants to sleep all day and do what he wants to do. Then he started taking Oxycodone and whatever else he could get his hands on. Whenhe graduated high school last June he went one semester to college but hated it. I told him if he didn't go to school he needed to get a job. I was able to pull some strings and get him a good full time job with benefits and a pension. He's been there 6 months and hasn't worked one complete week yet. There is always an excuse with him why he didn't go or why he had to leave early. Back in April a friend of his told me he started using heroin. I was shocked. Then on Friday April 13 his father found him onhis bedroom floor blue in the face. We immediatley called 911 and they gave him that Narcolone (I think) and he was taken to the hospital overnight. He then asked to be taken to this program where they treated with Suboxone, which we did and he's been on that since May. It works when he choses to take it. When he doesn't it means he wants to get high. I then got him into an outpatient treatment program where he was supposed to attend every day. He went once and the immediately dropped him. The counselor was so nice and I thought we found the place to help. Recently the original place treated him with the Suboxone dropped him because most of his drug tests came back positive. He is now shooting heroin usually on the weekends. About a month ago he did it on a Friday morning and didn't go to work. Instead he went to the mall and was caught shoplifting and brought to the precinct and given a desk appearance ticket. He already has a few things that he is goingn to court for and they are adding them all to the same case. Twice this weekend he was found twice high on heroin. I rip apart him room every change I get and take whatever drug paraphenalia i find in there. I am at the end of my rope with him. He has been on the verge of getting fired from this position but because the lady I know who got him the job has great pull they haven't fired him yet, but I know the day will come. We tried three times taking him to inpatient. the first two times they told me he wasn't detoxing so they would not admit it. The this time which was just last week he tried to bolt out the door and I ripped the shirt right off his back. He was wandering around the street with no shirt for two hours until he got in touch with us. I am scared out of my mind. this cannot continue. The whole family is being affected by this. I am so afraid that if I ask him to leave what will happen to him and then i will have so much guilt. There is an issue with him almost every single day. I want a positive outcome. My family has gotten involved but now he wants nothing to do with any of them because of it. He had a great childhood and was treated well by everyone. He says he has a lot of anxieties, which i do believe, and says that the drugs help. I have been trying to get him to a psychiatrist for the anxieties but none of them will help while he is still abusing drugs. I just don't know what my next step should be to get through to this kid. He yesses me to death when I talk to him but goes out and does the same thing. I have tried deleting all the trouble kids from his FB account and cell phone contacts, but they always find a way back. He lies about everything and my family is on a downward spiral. Any suggestions or advice would be so helpful.