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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 552173" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Like it or not - in the eyes of the law, this 19 year old is a man - not a child. Legally, he is no longer the responsibility of his parents. Legally, the parents cannot force treatment upon him.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Once this man reaches adulthood - it is NOT being cruel, unreasonable, or tough to expect him to act like the adult that he is. I have never asked an addict to move out of my home - but I HAVE asked a diabetic to move out of my home for many of the same issues that others face here. He was completely irresponsible, disrespectful, and content to lay around in a tired, run-down state while depending on us for his every need. We eventually decided that if he wanted to destroy himself by ignoring medical advice and letting his diabetes get out of control - he could do that on his own. *We* did not need to have a hand in his demise.</p><p></p><p>And while it was a guilt-ridden decision on our part - at the end of the day, it WAS for his own good. Why? It forced him into a position where he had to take responsibility for his own health and well-being. Rather than being able to lay in bed all day relying on others for his every need - he needed to better manage his condition in order to hold a job and do the things one needs to do in order to survive. Did it FEEL good for him? I'm sure it did not. But that's not really the point - is it? No one gets through life without hardship and pain. But it IS those hardships that teach us life skills.</p><p></p><p>At the end of the day - no one can fix an addict (or a diabetic) but themself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 552173, member: 6546"] Like it or not - in the eyes of the law, this 19 year old is a man - not a child. Legally, he is no longer the responsibility of his parents. Legally, the parents cannot force treatment upon him. Once this man reaches adulthood - it is NOT being cruel, unreasonable, or tough to expect him to act like the adult that he is. I have never asked an addict to move out of my home - but I HAVE asked a diabetic to move out of my home for many of the same issues that others face here. He was completely irresponsible, disrespectful, and content to lay around in a tired, run-down state while depending on us for his every need. We eventually decided that if he wanted to destroy himself by ignoring medical advice and letting his diabetes get out of control - he could do that on his own. *We* did not need to have a hand in his demise. And while it was a guilt-ridden decision on our part - at the end of the day, it WAS for his own good. Why? It forced him into a position where he had to take responsibility for his own health and well-being. Rather than being able to lay in bed all day relying on others for his every need - he needed to better manage his condition in order to hold a job and do the things one needs to do in order to survive. Did it FEEL good for him? I'm sure it did not. But that's not really the point - is it? No one gets through life without hardship and pain. But it IS those hardships that teach us life skills. At the end of the day - no one can fix an addict (or a diabetic) but themself. [/QUOTE]
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