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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 193236" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>We did talk about these things and after I asked him to tell me how he saw the "plan" and what strategies he planned, or something to try to find out the specific approach he inteneded and goals ( to make sure we were on the same page), he told me he couldn't. (I did leave that session a bit concerned- with eyebrows raised.)</p><p></p><p>There were a few things that happened in the fall of 2005 that had a major impact on difficult child. He had signs that these things were effecting him and he was having trouble dealing with them. Then, he became self-desstructive, started breaking the law, his personality changed, etc. Those things didn't have anything to do with our relationship being bad or anything I was doing or not doing. I took difficult child to a family therapist at thaat point though thinking that he could help difficult child or help me help him. He recommended that I take difficult child to a psychiatrist and said he thought this was a bigger issue than a family therapist could deal with. (Which I did)</p><p></p><p>Maybe the intern intentionally did go that route just to test me and see how I would react- to see if I was getting caught up into it and contributing to the escalation in difficult child (raging or mania). It seemed like a catch 22 because if I didn't say anything, I wasn't going along with the program. If I reacted, I would be contributing to the problem (it being just tattling or arguing or becoming emotional). Anyway, when it got to that point, I just said that I wasn't playing that game and that difficult child and I would discuss this at home and handle it a different way. </p><p></p><p>Maybe I'm just looking in the chimney section of the yellow pages!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 193236, member: 3699"] We did talk about these things and after I asked him to tell me how he saw the "plan" and what strategies he planned, or something to try to find out the specific approach he inteneded and goals ( to make sure we were on the same page), he told me he couldn't. (I did leave that session a bit concerned- with eyebrows raised.) There were a few things that happened in the fall of 2005 that had a major impact on difficult child. He had signs that these things were effecting him and he was having trouble dealing with them. Then, he became self-desstructive, started breaking the law, his personality changed, etc. Those things didn't have anything to do with our relationship being bad or anything I was doing or not doing. I took difficult child to a family therapist at thaat point though thinking that he could help difficult child or help me help him. He recommended that I take difficult child to a psychiatrist and said he thought this was a bigger issue than a family therapist could deal with. (Which I did) Maybe the intern intentionally did go that route just to test me and see how I would react- to see if I was getting caught up into it and contributing to the escalation in difficult child (raging or mania). It seemed like a catch 22 because if I didn't say anything, I wasn't going along with the program. If I reacted, I would be contributing to the problem (it being just tattling or arguing or becoming emotional). Anyway, when it got to that point, I just said that I wasn't playing that game and that difficult child and I would discuss this at home and handle it a different way. Maybe I'm just looking in the chimney section of the yellow pages!! [/QUOTE]
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