Yesterday's meeting with intern was a complete disaster. It was the first time difficult child had been and was just there to meet him, we thought, but intern turned this into his own agenda to prove what he was going to do, I guess. It would have been really nice if he'd mentioned to me over the last month that he would not or could not provide what I was asking for and that he wasn't even going to try it. So, we won't be going back there. I'm left too livid over the whole thing and feel like it doesn't matter if I talk to them or not, they going to do the same ole same ole no matter what. Funny, I was talking to difficult child tonight asking him how he felt, without expressing all my negativity about it. difficult child said the same things that I am feeling- he said whether I'm in the room or not, this is all they do. Now I'm not saying there aren't good ones out there. But the ones we've seen so far have been this way. They address adhd, behavior modification, or some typical concept of family therapy, which apparently means that you're supposed to perfect the family before addressing anything else, regardless of whether or not your family relationship is all that bad or casued any of the difficult child issues. (Maybe they just do things completely differently when a kid is involved) I tried to stay positive while talking to difficult child and I mentioned again that there are good ones out there, we just haven't found the right fit, but if we see one who wants to focus on different areas as being the cause of the problem when we know it isn't and they won't focus on the real problems or they want to lead this into a "tattle- tale" situation between the two of us, then we need to remember not to create problems where there really aren't any. I reminded him that he is court-ordered to stay in counseling until a therapist says he doesn't need it anymore. difficult child said he wished he'd known all this before, because his individual therapist last year (the quack) told him that he would try to get him out of having to do therapy. He said the therapist told him he didn't think difficult child needed it so, then difficult child aksed me, "if I go back to him and asked him to write a letter saying I don't need counseling, does that mean the PO would have to let me off because I'd met the court order"? Well, yes. See my delemma? That therapist is a quack and I know it. But then again, our current options are this or one who knows how to do family therapy, so he's going to turn it into that kind of problem regardless of everything else, or wasting time with one goes in circles and can't even get started on anything- it's like he's stuck on step 1 and 2. I'm seriously thinking about talking to the quack about this. I think he will see difficult child a few times then write a letter. I could keep looking for a psychiatrist who does counseling, or someone else to address what we need, but the PO and legal issues would be gone much sooner. One big problem that I have with the quack is what he told difficult child about street drugs. Right now, difficult child is staying away from illegal drugs and turned someone in at school last spring for trying to sell a large amount and bringing them to school. But you know, I have to wonder what this guy could tell difficult child if he went back for a while and difficult child might not be able to maker a wiser decision. But, if difficult child only went a few times...??? SIGH, Again..