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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 193668" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Yes, that makes sense, thanks! Although- that does require therapist acknowledging that these things are going on with difficult child and not just intentional bad behavior. </p><p></p><p>Another thing he said on the phone- I mentioned something about "why are we doing family therapy- I know our household isn't perfect, but we have bigger problems and we aren't there for family therapy." And, I discussed having a psychiatrist involved more- as far as helping me with strategies and difficult child with understanding what is going on with him. I was trying, politely, to say that if his method of teaching us this aspect was family therapy, then maybe this was an issue. I mentioned that some parents get this from counseling with a psychiatrist, but that difficult child's regular psychiatrist wouldn't do this. He said "Oh, so you're frustrated about that" me- "Yes, and this is where I feel the gap is, but I don't think that discussing my casseroles and whether or not difficult child likes them is going to fill that gap". He said "I see your point- so regular psychiatrist has only met with difficult child 15 mins at a time and never covered these issues- then I will talk with psychiatrist here and see if we can come up with something". That is my best hope- then difficult child could see this guy (intern) for indivudual therapy, and I, or we, could meet with psychiatrist for what I'm looking for, but there is no conflict between therapists and psychiatrist could help intern understand a little more about cycling (I really don't think he gets that concept so well-I think many people don't until they see it first-hand). Well- that's my dream- we'll see if it can happen. Maybe- I still have such negative feelings about all this that I can't say for sure that anything he does would be enough for me right now- I was way too ticked about the whole thing Tues. that I don't know that I can wipe that slate clean. I still feel like he has pre-conceived ideas, etc., that I don't know that I want to deal with. I'm going to give it the weekend and we'll see how I feel Mon. morning. If I can't get past feeling like this, I might have to cancel- no sense going through more if I have reached a point where I can never be comfortable with him- Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>If I do go thru this Monday and he pulls another 45 min family therapy session after what he told me on the phone, I can't begin to tell you how I'd feel. But it wouldn't be good. I do think that could happen because he said the same thing on the phone that he said Tues.- let's start with both, then difficult child, then me. </p><p></p><p>But thanks, Heather, you've helped me a lot. Sorry if I've been defensive- my anger was with these tdocs and the situation, not with anyone here.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you don't feel well- and thanks again for trying to keep up- I know I've written a book. And something does appear to be wrong if I need to go through all this to deal with a therapist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 193668, member: 3699"] Yes, that makes sense, thanks! Although- that does require therapist acknowledging that these things are going on with difficult child and not just intentional bad behavior. Another thing he said on the phone- I mentioned something about "why are we doing family therapy- I know our household isn't perfect, but we have bigger problems and we aren't there for family therapy." And, I discussed having a psychiatrist involved more- as far as helping me with strategies and difficult child with understanding what is going on with him. I was trying, politely, to say that if his method of teaching us this aspect was family therapy, then maybe this was an issue. I mentioned that some parents get this from counseling with a psychiatrist, but that difficult child's regular psychiatrist wouldn't do this. He said "Oh, so you're frustrated about that" me- "Yes, and this is where I feel the gap is, but I don't think that discussing my casseroles and whether or not difficult child likes them is going to fill that gap". He said "I see your point- so regular psychiatrist has only met with difficult child 15 mins at a time and never covered these issues- then I will talk with psychiatrist here and see if we can come up with something". That is my best hope- then difficult child could see this guy (intern) for indivudual therapy, and I, or we, could meet with psychiatrist for what I'm looking for, but there is no conflict between therapists and psychiatrist could help intern understand a little more about cycling (I really don't think he gets that concept so well-I think many people don't until they see it first-hand). Well- that's my dream- we'll see if it can happen. Maybe- I still have such negative feelings about all this that I can't say for sure that anything he does would be enough for me right now- I was way too ticked about the whole thing Tues. that I don't know that I can wipe that slate clean. I still feel like he has pre-conceived ideas, etc., that I don't know that I want to deal with. I'm going to give it the weekend and we'll see how I feel Mon. morning. If I can't get past feeling like this, I might have to cancel- no sense going through more if I have reached a point where I can never be comfortable with him- Know what I mean?? If I do go thru this Monday and he pulls another 45 min family therapy session after what he told me on the phone, I can't begin to tell you how I'd feel. But it wouldn't be good. I do think that could happen because he said the same thing on the phone that he said Tues.- let's start with both, then difficult child, then me. But thanks, Heather, you've helped me a lot. Sorry if I've been defensive- my anger was with these tdocs and the situation, not with anyone here. I'm sorry you don't feel well- and thanks again for trying to keep up- I know I've written a book. And something does appear to be wrong if I need to go through all this to deal with a therapist. [/QUOTE]
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