It must be my lack of communication skills. (Warning- this is a weekly vent) I called the state agency guy again today. He said in order to get public funding for difficult child to have after school care, we had to get either the PO or school on board and go thru county agency. He wanted to talk to PO- I begged him not to and explained how much the court people's "help" had cost me only to get no help for me or difficult child at all. So, he said he wouldn't do that. I told him I'd talk to school next week and we got off phone. Then, I realized that after school care isn't really going to solve this problem- but I can see how he got to that resolution. I had told him that I need help with someone helping to take care of difficult child so I can go back to work full time. I know I mentioned to him that there are times difficult child isn't getting to school so there's no way I can work full hours on those days and difficult child will not go to a regular after school program at this point. Anyway, it isn't just that, even if I had that help it wouldn't cover everything. Apparently none of these people stop to think about the hours missed from work for meetings at school, PO, tdocs, etc. It's pointless. And I can't very well expect the school district to back up or recommend someone to watch difficult child if he refused to go to school that day. Then, I looked through yellow pages to find a therapist for me that maybe could help with my baggage. I found an ad for a place and it looked like "The Answer". I called and immediatley got Ms. sale's pitch who apparently was the founder of this counseling place. When I tactfully got her to quit asking me questions so I could ask her a few, she started talking like she was in a PhD class. I told her that was a little above my head and these were the terms I was familiar with XYZ- and ask if she did any type of therapy like that. Then she got all bubbly and told me how they do everything eclectic. Then she told me to get a referral from my GP dr and they'd probably be the place referred to me. Again, I must just think differently from most people because this just was a put off to me. I just couldn't begin to imagine trying to have a counseling session with this person. We have to see PO Mon afternoon and I'm already cringing over it. She, nor anyone from judge's office, ever called me so I'm sure that means that PO will deal with it Mon. It will be another one of those things where they already have everything planned out and they'll hit me and difficult child with it in a 15 min meeting so I have no idea what to expect. All I know is that I wish someone would tell this PO that she is not qualified to be a therapist and she needs to keep her actions and words confined to the role of a PO. I've got an appointment with the one therapist before the PO on Mon. I don';t want to keep that one either. She is like the typical- she has her agenda set before I even get in there. I complained to difficult child's new therapist about most of them being this way. How would anyone feel if they went to a GP and the GP was standing there holding a script out before you even told him what was bothering you? Apparently this female therapist spoke with difficult child's therapist and got a brief summary of difficult child's issues so she automatically has an agenda for what she's going to work with me on. I wasn't asking to see her for that reason. And I HATE overly-bubbly tdocs. Sorry, I just do. I swear I want to give up. No, I don't want to, I just don't know where else to turn. If I could count on difficult child to do his best, I would just take him and leave here. But I can't count on him to do that.