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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 676184" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I am sorry Serenity for this. I understand, too, having those nights with not enough rest, sometimes my arthritis wakes me up, and I am unable to get back to sleep, this is hard on our bodies. All things considered, dear friend, you have come so very far in your healing, it is hard work, coming away strong in the face of your accident. You are one tough cookie. </p><p></p><p>With your sister.......</p><p>I am sorry that it has gone to the level it has. <em> </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I am the younger sister. </em> </p><p></p><p>So, it puts into perspective, <em>how my sister may feel</em>, when I spill over with the pain of growing up as I did. </p><p></p><p>Thank you for sharing your story, here, I wanted to let you know, it has helped me, try to look at my past a bit<em> differently</em>.....and whatever future interactions I may have with my sis, try to <em>reprocess</em>, as well as avoid things that will cause the same reaction from her, I do not wish to <em>hurt</em> her. </p><p></p><p>I can see how, my speaking of these memories would hurt her, so I am not going there anymore,<em> with her</em>. To be perfectly honest, if I did mention it, and we could just have a hug, a glass of wine, and sigh over our weird childhood, that would be awesome, but that doesn't seem to be in the cards....... I will continue to review them, to try to understand myself and learn, why I am the way I am, how to be a better person myself, that is the <em>only control I have.</em> </p><p></p><p>The things that happened to me as a child, went under the radar of my parents, also, for whatever reasons. Still trying to figure that one out..... </p><p></p><p>Our stories are similar there, but I think vastly different in that it seems from what I have read, and correct me if I am wrong, your lil sis went on this <em>campaign of hurting you. It seems there is a vengefulness. </em></p><p></p><p>I think it natural, that<em> people want to have ties with their families, to be able to find respite and comfort</em>. When this is not the reality, and will not be the reality, it is a double blow. </p><p></p><p>When the blows just keep coming, from the same source, ouch. </p><p> I am sorry, I am kind of all over the place with this.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I wanted to say, too, is that I hope my postings have not dredged up memories and pain for you, or anyone, because <em>I am the younger sister</em>. </p><p> I do know that whatever happened in our childhood, was not my sisters fault, because she was not stopped, I just wanted to share that, as well.......</p><p>How could a child be blamed for mistakes made, that were not corrected by adults... but....when it carried over into our adult lives, that is a line crossed. </p><p></p><p>And so it is for you, a line crossed........ </p><p></p><p>All of this that you are going through, with your younger sister, is so crazily extreme. To find websites you are posting on, and post there, too, is <em>more than over the top</em>. It is beyond comprehension. Stalking, what on earth is the point?</p><p></p><p> I agree with your conclusion, and with Cedar, <em>not to even go there</em>. </p><p> It seems to be some sort of <em>showdown</em> for her and is an <em>invasion</em> of your process. JMO leafy</p><p>ps, drat, my keyboard is acting up, it is driving me batty, some keys work, some don't, my "enter" key is not working, got to switch to phone .....going to the apple store.......</p><p>Serenity, keep your chin up, you are a good and kind person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 676184, member: 19522"] I am sorry Serenity for this. I understand, too, having those nights with not enough rest, sometimes my arthritis wakes me up, and I am unable to get back to sleep, this is hard on our bodies. All things considered, dear friend, you have come so very far in your healing, it is hard work, coming away strong in the face of your accident. You are one tough cookie. With your sister....... I am sorry that it has gone to the level it has. [I] I am the younger sister. [/I] So, it puts into perspective, [I]how my sister may feel[/I], when I spill over with the pain of growing up as I did. Thank you for sharing your story, here, I wanted to let you know, it has helped me, try to look at my past a bit[I] differently[/I].....and whatever future interactions I may have with my sis, try to [I]reprocess[/I], as well as avoid things that will cause the same reaction from her, I do not wish to [I]hurt[/I] her. I can see how, my speaking of these memories would hurt her, so I am not going there anymore,[I] with her[/I]. To be perfectly honest, if I did mention it, and we could just have a hug, a glass of wine, and sigh over our weird childhood, that would be awesome, but that doesn't seem to be in the cards....... I will continue to review them, to try to understand myself and learn, why I am the way I am, how to be a better person myself, that is the [I]only control I have.[/I] The things that happened to me as a child, went under the radar of my parents, also, for whatever reasons. Still trying to figure that one out..... Our stories are similar there, but I think vastly different in that it seems from what I have read, and correct me if I am wrong, your lil sis went on this [I]campaign of hurting you. It seems there is a vengefulness. [/I] I think it natural, that[I] people want to have ties with their families, to be able to find respite and comfort[/I]. When this is not the reality, and will not be the reality, it is a double blow. When the blows just keep coming, from the same source, ouch. I am sorry, I am kind of all over the place with this. I guess what I wanted to say, too, is that I hope my postings have not dredged up memories and pain for you, or anyone, because [I]I am the younger sister[/I]. I do know that whatever happened in our childhood, was not my sisters fault, because she was not stopped, I just wanted to share that, as well....... How could a child be blamed for mistakes made, that were not corrected by adults... but....when it carried over into our adult lives, that is a line crossed. And so it is for you, a line crossed........ All of this that you are going through, with your younger sister, is so crazily extreme. To find websites you are posting on, and post there, too, is [I]more than over the top[/I]. It is beyond comprehension. Stalking, what on earth is the point? I agree with your conclusion, and with Cedar, [I]not to even go there[/I]. It seems to be some sort of [I]showdown[/I] for her and is an [I]invasion[/I] of your process. JMO leafy ps, drat, my keyboard is acting up, it is driving me batty, some keys work, some don't, my "enter" key is not working, got to switch to phone .....going to the apple store....... Serenity, keep your chin up, you are a good and kind person. [/QUOTE]
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