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Morning from hell and Conduct Disorder remains the verdict...
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 467028" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I think if we read EPT's signature she has said he has been diagnosed with attachment disorder. If I remember, he had a really rocky start...tons of crying and inability to bond. One of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is angry/hostile parents (NOT calling you names, this is on the common lists out there) and I know for me this fits at times. It is not that the angry hostile parent causes the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms...that is the huge misconception in professionals not experienced in treating these kids....it is that they are so frustrating and mean and there is not a normal connection PLUS everyone blames the parents. How do you come away from that without getting angry etc. EPT has two other kids who are doing fine (except for the stress of difficult child, right?) developmentally speaking. She knows how to bond. So no matter the final diagnosis I agree that as long as it gets her the treatment that will offer her and her difficult child some hope and relief that is what is important. First things first, they need support and a direction. What I hear in EPT's posts (feels weird to talk about you that way, and feel free to correct me if I am misunderstanding) that she is arming herself against the chance of a heart-breaking decision...that her child may not be able to live with them from this very young age...and she has stated that is not her goal and she thinks it would be a terrible option. But EPT, make no mistake, that does not mean, if it comes to that, you are a failed parent or that you are not parenting him anymore...that means you will be making a decision to parent him in the way that meets his needs and helps him to develop to his potential. It is a huge loss of a parental dream for raising children. Very painful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 467028, member: 12886"] I think if we read EPT's signature she has said he has been diagnosed with attachment disorder. If I remember, he had a really rocky start...tons of crying and inability to bond. One of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is angry/hostile parents (NOT calling you names, this is on the common lists out there) and I know for me this fits at times. It is not that the angry hostile parent causes the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms...that is the huge misconception in professionals not experienced in treating these kids....it is that they are so frustrating and mean and there is not a normal connection PLUS everyone blames the parents. How do you come away from that without getting angry etc. EPT has two other kids who are doing fine (except for the stress of difficult child, right?) developmentally speaking. She knows how to bond. So no matter the final diagnosis I agree that as long as it gets her the treatment that will offer her and her difficult child some hope and relief that is what is important. First things first, they need support and a direction. What I hear in EPT's posts (feels weird to talk about you that way, and feel free to correct me if I am misunderstanding) that she is arming herself against the chance of a heart-breaking decision...that her child may not be able to live with them from this very young age...and she has stated that is not her goal and she thinks it would be a terrible option. But EPT, make no mistake, that does not mean, if it comes to that, you are a failed parent or that you are not parenting him anymore...that means you will be making a decision to parent him in the way that meets his needs and helps him to develop to his potential. It is a huge loss of a parental dream for raising children. Very painful. [/QUOTE]
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