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<blockquote data-quote="Guidance seeker" data-source="post: 725942" data-attributes="member: 22632"><p>Tired mama - He has underlying mental conditions - mild autism and ADHD. Although I feel these conditions have contributed to how he is, the drug use seems to have really messed him up.</p><p></p><p>I haven’t completely detached yet and I know that by buying his food once he has ran out of money I am enabling him as there’s less consequences for him when he spends his money on drugs. </p><p></p><p>He gets a rented flat next week and I’m so worried that he will lose his tenancy by his behaviour. However, I have told him that I won’t find him somewhere to stay if he does as I have exhausted every option but in reality, I’m hoping that I can stay strong enough to do that and not pay for yet another hotel.</p><p></p><p>I worry more about him being homeless than him going to prison. A couple of years ago, the thought of him going to prison terrified me but nowadays I feel prison may at least bring some stability and possible help. I think it’s very likely that he will go one day because of unpaid fines, not engaging with probation or committing new crimes.</p><p></p><p>Like you have experienced, many of my son’s phone calls start nicely then become abusive when I don’t give him what he wants. When he lived at home, the phrase I started to dread was, “Can we have a talk mam?” - that usually meant he had ran up a huge drug debt and wanted to persuade me he wanted to change so I would pay off the debt. The talk would always end badly with things being smashed etc unless I gave in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Guidance seeker, post: 725942, member: 22632"] Tired mama - He has underlying mental conditions - mild autism and ADHD. Although I feel these conditions have contributed to how he is, the drug use seems to have really messed him up. I haven’t completely detached yet and I know that by buying his food once he has ran out of money I am enabling him as there’s less consequences for him when he spends his money on drugs. He gets a rented flat next week and I’m so worried that he will lose his tenancy by his behaviour. However, I have told him that I won’t find him somewhere to stay if he does as I have exhausted every option but in reality, I’m hoping that I can stay strong enough to do that and not pay for yet another hotel. I worry more about him being homeless than him going to prison. A couple of years ago, the thought of him going to prison terrified me but nowadays I feel prison may at least bring some stability and possible help. I think it’s very likely that he will go one day because of unpaid fines, not engaging with probation or committing new crimes. Like you have experienced, many of my son’s phone calls start nicely then become abusive when I don’t give him what he wants. When he lived at home, the phrase I started to dread was, “Can we have a talk mam?” - that usually meant he had ran up a huge drug debt and wanted to persuade me he wanted to change so I would pay off the debt. The talk would always end badly with things being smashed etc unless I gave in. [/QUOTE]
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