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<blockquote data-quote="Guidance seeker" data-source="post: 726515" data-attributes="member: 22632"><p>SWOT - I agree with you totally that I need some form of therapy. Tomorrow I intend to contact the nearest nar-anon group and find out about attending. I need guidance so badly.</p><p></p><p>When he was kicked out of the homeless accommodation for the firework incident last week, I started off as so strong and did absolutely nothing to help him which felt incredibly hard but for a short period seemed to make him quite respectful (after the initial verbal abuse that I had “made him homeless”). He managed to raise money for the following 2 nights but after that he had no money he could get and that is when we put him up in a hotel.</p><p></p><p>I need to change my attitude towards him and to stay strong. I find the anxiety overwhelming at times and felt relief when we put him up in the hotel although the anxiety didn’t go away as I’m never sure what he will do. </p><p></p><p>I take on his problems as my own problems and worry about them constantly, I need to learn how to stop doing that. I have no control whatsoever over his problems and the choices he makes and things regularly take turns for the worse because of his terrible choices. </p><p></p><p>I want to enjoy my life again. I have so much - I have a good husband and a wonderful daughter who I am so proud of. I have great, supportive friends too. It feels so unfair that I have worked hard all my life and tried to make wise decisions for a good future only to have it ruined by my selfish son who believes I owe him everything. My husband is so down with us running around after him. We have both said that once he moves into his flat tomorrow, we will have to back off a lot and stop bailing him out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Guidance seeker, post: 726515, member: 22632"] SWOT - I agree with you totally that I need some form of therapy. Tomorrow I intend to contact the nearest nar-anon group and find out about attending. I need guidance so badly. When he was kicked out of the homeless accommodation for the firework incident last week, I started off as so strong and did absolutely nothing to help him which felt incredibly hard but for a short period seemed to make him quite respectful (after the initial verbal abuse that I had “made him homeless”). He managed to raise money for the following 2 nights but after that he had no money he could get and that is when we put him up in a hotel. I need to change my attitude towards him and to stay strong. I find the anxiety overwhelming at times and felt relief when we put him up in the hotel although the anxiety didn’t go away as I’m never sure what he will do. I take on his problems as my own problems and worry about them constantly, I need to learn how to stop doing that. I have no control whatsoever over his problems and the choices he makes and things regularly take turns for the worse because of his terrible choices. I want to enjoy my life again. I have so much - I have a good husband and a wonderful daughter who I am so proud of. I have great, supportive friends too. It feels so unfair that I have worked hard all my life and tried to make wise decisions for a good future only to have it ruined by my selfish son who believes I owe him everything. My husband is so down with us running around after him. We have both said that once he moves into his flat tomorrow, we will have to back off a lot and stop bailing him out. [/QUOTE]
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