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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 726534" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Why even answer the phone? Have you talked to your daughter today (not about your son?) You will be miserable until you stop your thoughts on him all the time. Why? You will never know. Chances are he will blow this too. Look up Radical Acceptance.</p><p></p><p>If I had been your husband I would have left. Your son is old enough to organize his flat. If it's a mess it's a mess. Big deal. It's his place and he is entied to keep it a mess. He is not a child.</p><p></p><p>Dont do it for him. And realize that you have other people and issues in your life. Not one time has doing it for your son even been met with a thank you. Or changed him one bit.</p><p></p><p>Nothing changes if nothing changes. Your husband is helping your son again and so, like the status quo, he is acting like a completely entitled arsehole (sorry, but he is). You read his text which is the status quo so now you are pulled right into his crappy vortex and are miserable again. Nothing changes for you or him if you don't change.</p><p></p><p>I do not know if you believe in a higher power, but if you don't just remove the word God and read the wise serenity prayer.</p><p></p><p>God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,</p><p>The courage to change the things I can.</p><p>And the wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>This journey is all about our change for ourselves and loved ones.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 726534, member: 1550"] Why even answer the phone? Have you talked to your daughter today (not about your son?) You will be miserable until you stop your thoughts on him all the time. Why? You will never know. Chances are he will blow this too. Look up Radical Acceptance. If I had been your husband I would have left. Your son is old enough to organize his flat. If it's a mess it's a mess. Big deal. It's his place and he is entied to keep it a mess. He is not a child. Dont do it for him. And realize that you have other people and issues in your life. Not one time has doing it for your son even been met with a thank you. Or changed him one bit. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Your husband is helping your son again and so, like the status quo, he is acting like a completely entitled arsehole (sorry, but he is). You read his text which is the status quo so now you are pulled right into his crappy vortex and are miserable again. Nothing changes for you or him if you don't change. I do not know if you believe in a higher power, but if you don't just remove the word God and read the wise serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, The courage to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference. This journey is all about our change for ourselves and loved ones. [/QUOTE]
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