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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 726535" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Guidance:</p><p></p><p>I think the reason your son is acting this way is because he is an addict. I doubt this flat will last because until he realizes he has a problem and is forced to make a change he most likely will not.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how old your son is but we were finally told that we could force our son to change. We didn't have to wait until he was ready. If he did not change, then goodbye.</p><p></p><p>We were told this by a therapist he had last year. She was a former addict also but now is married with a child and a therapist herself. We sent our son to many rehabs and therapists over the seven years since this all started. We thought it was a phase. He'd go months sober and then binge and raise holy hell in our home. When he is sober he is kind and loving. He was an adorable little boy that everyone loved like most of the addicts here.</p><p></p><p>Our son is now in a long term faith based program. This came after two suicide threats last year and time in psychiatric wards each time. His girlfriend called on him both times. Hell on earth is the only way to describe being the mother of an addict that just WON'T stop. We have started to see some change in him but let's face it, that's not real life. The real change comes when they are truly free to use and choose not to. A therapist that is specialized in addiction has helped me detach and create firm boundaries. He needs this as much as I do. </p><p></p><p>I have been praised by many therapists on how strong my boundaries are. The only thing stronger than the boundaries I have set is my love for him. I really had to do it this way to survive.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 726535, member: 15032"] Guidance: I think the reason your son is acting this way is because he is an addict. I doubt this flat will last because until he realizes he has a problem and is forced to make a change he most likely will not. I don't know how old your son is but we were finally told that we could force our son to change. We didn't have to wait until he was ready. If he did not change, then goodbye. We were told this by a therapist he had last year. She was a former addict also but now is married with a child and a therapist herself. We sent our son to many rehabs and therapists over the seven years since this all started. We thought it was a phase. He'd go months sober and then binge and raise holy hell in our home. When he is sober he is kind and loving. He was an adorable little boy that everyone loved like most of the addicts here. Our son is now in a long term faith based program. This came after two suicide threats last year and time in psychiatric wards each time. His girlfriend called on him both times. Hell on earth is the only way to describe being the mother of an addict that just WON'T stop. We have started to see some change in him but let's face it, that's not real life. The real change comes when they are truly free to use and choose not to. A therapist that is specialized in addiction has helped me detach and create firm boundaries. He needs this as much as I do. I have been praised by many therapists on how strong my boundaries are. The only thing stronger than the boundaries I have set is my love for him. I really had to do it this way to survive. Good luck and stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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