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Most difficult years of my life
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 726567" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>GS, you're doing a good job. This stuff is HARD. Don't judge yourself or compare yourself to others, we all have our unique story and we all work our way thru this at the rate our hearts can handle. You're very hard on yourself. My suggestion, along with others, is to look into therapy.... but also to make a commitment to yourself to be more kind, compassionate and loving to YOURSELF. </p><p></p><p>It's obvious how much you love your son, however, if you put the focus on yourself and learn to honor yourself, you will not only model that to your son, you will naturally make healthier choices out of your sense of self care and balance. </p><p></p><p>It's easy to get into patterned behavior with our kids over many years where we give and give and take care of and support and ultimately enable.....but, as you're seeing, there comes a time to change that because we see it just isn't working. Change does NOT come easy to us humans, we tend to fight it. However, because you decide to change behavior that goes back years, doesn't mean it's going to happen ASAP.....it's going to take time......it's like stopping a run-a-way train. That's what you're up to....stopping a run-a-way train. Give yourself a break, give yourself time and above all else, <em>give yourself gentle kindness and compassion. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Get yourself as much support as you can to help you thru this GS. Hang in there....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 726567, member: 13542"] GS, you're doing a good job. This stuff is HARD. Don't judge yourself or compare yourself to others, we all have our unique story and we all work our way thru this at the rate our hearts can handle. You're very hard on yourself. My suggestion, along with others, is to look into therapy.... but also to make a commitment to yourself to be more kind, compassionate and loving to YOURSELF. It's obvious how much you love your son, however, if you put the focus on yourself and learn to honor yourself, you will not only model that to your son, you will naturally make healthier choices out of your sense of self care and balance. It's easy to get into patterned behavior with our kids over many years where we give and give and take care of and support and ultimately enable.....but, as you're seeing, there comes a time to change that because we see it just isn't working. Change does NOT come easy to us humans, we tend to fight it. However, because you decide to change behavior that goes back years, doesn't mean it's going to happen ASAP.....it's going to take time......it's like stopping a run-a-way train. That's what you're up to....stopping a run-a-way train. Give yourself a break, give yourself time and above all else, [I]give yourself gentle kindness and compassion. [/I] Get yourself as much support as you can to help you thru this GS. Hang in there.... [/QUOTE]
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