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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 169072" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Star, you and I think SO much alike!</p><p></p><p>Amaze, you said, "I definatley see where her son got his "nasty streak" from. Seems my difficult child's have managed to inherit it as well."</p><p></p><p>They didn't inherit it, they learned it. And part of that learning is the way you respond to it. You need to learn at the Star Academy to let it wash right over you and then roll back over those sending it.</p><p></p><p>When nastiness is directed at you, you have a choice. You do not have to accept any of it. You don't have to be nasty and throw it back, you can just choose to not take it on board, to see it as all totally irrelevant.</p><p></p><p>It needn't matter whether it's mother in law, S2BX or the kids - YOU DESERVE RESPECT. But you must first show that you respect yourself. Then show your kids that you respect them, but they must also show respect to you.</p><p></p><p>Never let your kids see you not being respected. Never let your kids see you accepting any of this rubbish on board.</p><p></p><p>If, at some stage in the future, S2BX (or GFGII) castigates you for failing to ensure that they had a chance to meet, then do not accept any of the responsibility for this failure. mother in law had the responsibility for following through; she failed. What were you supposed to do? And if you had done what they feel you were supposed to do (ie drop everything and be a doormat) then what sort of message would that send to EVERYBODY about consequences, meeting your responsibilities, being consistent?</p><p></p><p>Stand your ground. Be strong. Be assured. Be the person you are - someone worthy of respect and being treated with respect.</p><p></p><p>That is the best thing you can do not only for yourself, but for your kids. Become the sort of woman you want your sons to marry and treat like gold.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 169072, member: 1991"] Star, you and I think SO much alike! Amaze, you said, "I definatley see where her son got his "nasty streak" from. Seems my difficult child's have managed to inherit it as well." They didn't inherit it, they learned it. And part of that learning is the way you respond to it. You need to learn at the Star Academy to let it wash right over you and then roll back over those sending it. When nastiness is directed at you, you have a choice. You do not have to accept any of it. You don't have to be nasty and throw it back, you can just choose to not take it on board, to see it as all totally irrelevant. It needn't matter whether it's mother in law, S2BX or the kids - YOU DESERVE RESPECT. But you must first show that you respect yourself. Then show your kids that you respect them, but they must also show respect to you. Never let your kids see you not being respected. Never let your kids see you accepting any of this rubbish on board. If, at some stage in the future, S2BX (or GFGII) castigates you for failing to ensure that they had a chance to meet, then do not accept any of the responsibility for this failure. mother in law had the responsibility for following through; she failed. What were you supposed to do? And if you had done what they feel you were supposed to do (ie drop everything and be a doormat) then what sort of message would that send to EVERYBODY about consequences, meeting your responsibilities, being consistent? Stand your ground. Be strong. Be assured. Be the person you are - someone worthy of respect and being treated with respect. That is the best thing you can do not only for yourself, but for your kids. Become the sort of woman you want your sons to marry and treat like gold. Marg [/QUOTE]
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