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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 154530" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Paula, </p><p> </p><p>Well gal - BRAVO on the detachment. A few things that may (hope) make you feel better. As a FORMER tequila drinker - it is impossible to drink an entire bottle of that yourself, and chase it with anything like spiced rum. For one - had he drank an entire bottle of tequila - he would have alcohol poisoning. At 18, despite years of drinking - I have my doubts that he's far enough gone to find the bottom of a bottle. Drunk yes - skunk drinking drunk - yes. Maybe someone knows better than I do - but I've been around enough alcoholics in my life - one I knew even drank a bottle of Aqua Velva to calm his nerves - I'm more inclined to think this was a build up from Camp - Feel sorry for me life is kicking my arse won't you bail me out again Mom. </p><p> </p><p>As far as opening several checking accounts - even in our po-dunk town you have to fill out an application and THEN they run a quick credit report. There is also (someone like Suz could tell us) something about if you are a habitual check bouncer -I think the other banks let the other banks know. </p><p>IT is also (depending on the amt.s) misdemeanor offense. Which means that he could go before a judge, plea, and be fined for the amt. of the check, the stores bounced fees, the banks bounced fees, and come out realtively unscathed. Unless he's done this over a certain amount - $$ wise - it will be misdemeanor charges. IF he can get to the places he's bounced the check at - offer to pay the check, and the fee j- he'll only owe the bank. I'm sure they have long since closed out his account. </p><p> </p><p>As far as writing several bounced checks - MOST places use a veri-check system that scans the check and tells the vendor if the check is good at time of the sale - so something doesn't add up here with Andre's story. </p><p> </p><p>Besides - I thought he was living with enabler gma? Isnt' she going to find a way to pay for all his mistakes? (insert sinister laugh) </p><p> </p><p>You keep on Keepin' on and detach as much as you can. You're doing very VERY well. Keep reminding him of AA, and support him like that - but otherwise - Know what I mean?? </p><p> </p><p>Hugs </p><p>STar</p><p> </p><p>ps. -I am laughing a little because I'm thinking well - at LEAST your son called. Mine did not. He did call me last night. Never mentioned mother's day at all. Said he made $$ and was going to buy himself a CD player for the truck he's working on, that doesn't run, that isn't insured and even if it all were good - he has NO learners permit. HE got both social security cards off of me that I had kept - HAD to have them - he's a BIG BOY. Okay (hands ss cards) I figured while I was at it - hand him his birth certificate. He's managed to loose his wallet that had SS card and STate ID in it - needed to OBTAIN a Permit - so he went with the Birth certificate and the lady said no dice - without a SS card. SO the entire call was to fish around to see if I had another SS card hidden - and then to tell me that I DID TOO HAVE THEM NOT HIM HE NEVER GOT THEM. So I asked - Do you have your birth certificate. "Yesssssss" said cocky like. I said "Okay HERE in my hand I have a piece of paper dated XX that says quote "I am giving Dude his Bc and his SS card" I do not have any spares. SHould you loose them - YOU will call and pay whomever to get them reissued. Signed YOU dude, and Mom. </p><p> </p><p>(terrible growl) - then YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO BE SOOooooooooooo RIGHT. I hung up. He called back - I said "Hello." He said "Sorry" I said - yes, yes it all is - going to bed - good night. He said goodbye - never once wished me a Happy Mother's day - but I suspect it was because it was more fun to hang out with foster Mom and go out to eat. That was the benefit for HIM - come to my MOM's house? Hum....may have to buy a card. Go with the fosters - I get to eat out. </p><p> </p><p>This is what I have been reduced to in detachment - but it's keeping ME out of the looney bin. </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 154530, member: 4964"] Paula, Well gal - BRAVO on the detachment. A few things that may (hope) make you feel better. As a FORMER tequila drinker - it is impossible to drink an entire bottle of that yourself, and chase it with anything like spiced rum. For one - had he drank an entire bottle of tequila - he would have alcohol poisoning. At 18, despite years of drinking - I have my doubts that he's far enough gone to find the bottom of a bottle. Drunk yes - skunk drinking drunk - yes. Maybe someone knows better than I do - but I've been around enough alcoholics in my life - one I knew even drank a bottle of Aqua Velva to calm his nerves - I'm more inclined to think this was a build up from Camp - Feel sorry for me life is kicking my arse won't you bail me out again Mom. As far as opening several checking accounts - even in our po-dunk town you have to fill out an application and THEN they run a quick credit report. There is also (someone like Suz could tell us) something about if you are a habitual check bouncer -I think the other banks let the other banks know. IT is also (depending on the amt.s) misdemeanor offense. Which means that he could go before a judge, plea, and be fined for the amt. of the check, the stores bounced fees, the banks bounced fees, and come out realtively unscathed. Unless he's done this over a certain amount - $$ wise - it will be misdemeanor charges. IF he can get to the places he's bounced the check at - offer to pay the check, and the fee j- he'll only owe the bank. I'm sure they have long since closed out his account. As far as writing several bounced checks - MOST places use a veri-check system that scans the check and tells the vendor if the check is good at time of the sale - so something doesn't add up here with Andre's story. Besides - I thought he was living with enabler gma? Isnt' she going to find a way to pay for all his mistakes? (insert sinister laugh) You keep on Keepin' on and detach as much as you can. You're doing very VERY well. Keep reminding him of AA, and support him like that - but otherwise - Know what I mean?? Hugs STar ps. -I am laughing a little because I'm thinking well - at LEAST your son called. Mine did not. He did call me last night. Never mentioned mother's day at all. Said he made $$ and was going to buy himself a CD player for the truck he's working on, that doesn't run, that isn't insured and even if it all were good - he has NO learners permit. HE got both social security cards off of me that I had kept - HAD to have them - he's a BIG BOY. Okay (hands ss cards) I figured while I was at it - hand him his birth certificate. He's managed to loose his wallet that had SS card and STate ID in it - needed to OBTAIN a Permit - so he went with the Birth certificate and the lady said no dice - without a SS card. SO the entire call was to fish around to see if I had another SS card hidden - and then to tell me that I DID TOO HAVE THEM NOT HIM HE NEVER GOT THEM. So I asked - Do you have your birth certificate. "Yesssssss" said cocky like. I said "Okay HERE in my hand I have a piece of paper dated XX that says quote "I am giving Dude his Bc and his SS card" I do not have any spares. SHould you loose them - YOU will call and pay whomever to get them reissued. Signed YOU dude, and Mom. (terrible growl) - then YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO BE SOOooooooooooo RIGHT. I hung up. He called back - I said "Hello." He said "Sorry" I said - yes, yes it all is - going to bed - good night. He said goodbye - never once wished me a Happy Mother's day - but I suspect it was because it was more fun to hang out with foster Mom and go out to eat. That was the benefit for HIM - come to my MOM's house? Hum....may have to buy a card. Go with the fosters - I get to eat out. This is what I have been reduced to in detachment - but it's keeping ME out of the looney bin. Hang in there. Star [/QUOTE]
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