When it comes to your mom, just smile and nod, then proceed with your life the way you want to handle it. It's just easier that way. Then come here to vent. :smile:
When it comes to husband, all the worrying in the world on your part is not going to change the outcome on his part. This is something he has to do for himself. Your main concerns are you and your children.
Sorry difficult child II is being a pain.