I'm popping in to touch base. I have gone thru the responses more carefully- Susie and skeeter, those are good ideas. Susie, what you said about people not wanting to hire those with previous long term professions is right on target. As far as begging my mom, well I think I have already pushed that as far as I can. She isn't cut from the same mould as most and she made it pretty clear. If I stress the severity of things any further, she'll go off on one of her tangents that she claims are panic attacks and be on the phone hysterical to others until she has stirred up even more koi in mine and difficult child's lives- this has ALWAYS been her way. Example- she had told me I could stay with her right before difficult child was born (I was paying her to help out- this was due to access to hospital) and tthe first few weeks after difficult child was born, until I felt comfortable bringing him back to the home I had set up for us out of state. Fine- until he was born and I literally had to beg her on the phone to come and get us from the hospital when they discharged us. She called the nurses and told them I was trying to starve difficult child to death because I wanted to breastfeed and my milk hadn't come in right away. Is that normal for a mother/grandmother? I would have taken money with me for a taxi if I'd had any clue at all that she would do that. And then she wouldn't go in the pharmacy and get my rx filled for swelling and pain from the c-section, saying it was my responsibility. True, but I could barely stand up and even the pharmacist said I was about to pass out. Most assume this is just because she was mad over me having a baby out of wedlock, but it's not- she has always been this way.
Anyway, I don't know for sure that difficult child will be with me but more than likely he will at least start out that way. Yes, we can move as long as I report it and give a new address to the PO. Surpisingly enough, PO acts like this is no big deal even though when the HI job was on the table, he seemed like it was a horrible long process. I haven't heard anything about another court hearing so they have no choice but to release him to me unless I refuse to go get him or unless something else changes thru the courts. I have approximately 45-60 days left in the house, which puts it about the time between difficult child getting out of detention and school starting so the timing is ok. Obviously, it's just all the better if I can be out even before then. Thus, I'm trying to form a plan. I'm selling stuff as fast as I can but I can't really do anything other than list it and reduce prices. I got approved for food stamps but the card hasn't arrived yet- and it's been a while since I was approved but I can't get the person on the phone to try to find out if the card has been mailed yet. Most of the money from selling stuff will go to utility bills. I have to get them paid quickly so that's why I've been concentrating on selling stuff the past week.
I'm cringing at the thought that I might have to find other homes for the dogs and give them up.
I've never applied for public housing before so I'm completely slueless about the process- I don't even know iif it's allowed to go out of this jurisdiction and apply in another area of the state where it might be easier for me to find a job. That's the sort of info I need help with. I don't even know who to call to get these answers. I'm hoping somebosy at the VA can poiint me in a direction, even though I only have health benefits at the medication center.