Marg, thanks for the suggestions 
husband read my version and felt I was being a bit combative, LOL. I haven't sent the message yet and am still mulling it all over.
Lately I just feel so fed up with people who think they can mistreat others and get away with it that I feel compelled to speak out -- even if it means stepping on a few toes. But you are right about vinegar and flies -- perhaps a bit o' honey rimmed around the vessel of vinegar that I plan to drown them all in! 
