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<blockquote data-quote="MrMike" data-source="post: 608517" data-attributes="member: 16687"><p>Yeah JKF, I agree with the others, you dont need to call your son about it. You have done everything (and more) for him. This reminds me of something our counselor said to us last time. She said that my difficult child may be mad at me for helping him because he may feel that he knows he should be living his own life, and wants to be self-sufficient, but me helping him may just be getting in the way of that. And it could be making him feel like less of a man since he is not able to do for himself. I'm not saying this has anything to do with your difficult child, but just thought I'd mention it because it struck me that alot of difficult child's on this site seem to treat their parents even worse the more the parents try to help them. And maybe this is why they seem to sabotage the help they are given. They want to do it on their own, but can't seem to, but when we help them, they sabotage our efforts. Seems to happen in some cases anyway. Like I said this has nothing to do with your difficult child, but just thought I'd put it out there. </p><p></p><p>*Anyway, easier said than done, but you really need to let go of him, as others have said, and focus on your life. Pray for him, hope for him, set a good example for him in how you live and how you interact with him (he is still watching that I believe), and leave the rest to God. Ask God for help, guidance, direction, to watch over your difficult child, and help him make the right choices, and that's all you should do.</p><p></p><p>by the way, please excuse my religiosity. I don't mean to offend anyone who does not believe in the things that I do. I am just describing how I am dealing with my difficult child situation right now. It's just how I cope with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MrMike, post: 608517, member: 16687"] Yeah JKF, I agree with the others, you dont need to call your son about it. You have done everything (and more) for him. This reminds me of something our counselor said to us last time. She said that my difficult child may be mad at me for helping him because he may feel that he knows he should be living his own life, and wants to be self-sufficient, but me helping him may just be getting in the way of that. And it could be making him feel like less of a man since he is not able to do for himself. I'm not saying this has anything to do with your difficult child, but just thought I'd mention it because it struck me that alot of difficult child's on this site seem to treat their parents even worse the more the parents try to help them. And maybe this is why they seem to sabotage the help they are given. They want to do it on their own, but can't seem to, but when we help them, they sabotage our efforts. Seems to happen in some cases anyway. Like I said this has nothing to do with your difficult child, but just thought I'd put it out there. *Anyway, easier said than done, but you really need to let go of him, as others have said, and focus on your life. Pray for him, hope for him, set a good example for him in how you live and how you interact with him (he is still watching that I believe), and leave the rest to God. Ask God for help, guidance, direction, to watch over your difficult child, and help him make the right choices, and that's all you should do. by the way, please excuse my religiosity. I don't mean to offend anyone who does not believe in the things that I do. I am just describing how I am dealing with my difficult child situation right now. It's just how I cope with it. [/QUOTE]
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