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My 11.5 yr old is being charged with a felony assault
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<blockquote data-quote="Wildflower" data-source="post: 34385" data-attributes="member: 107"><p>I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now. Your post struck a cord with me partly because my difficult child is just a year younger than yours and this is something that I worry about with him as well - but mostly because you sound like you are at rock bottom. I dwelled there for a while when my difficult child was little and for a better part of last year due to "life" stuff and I'm very familiar with the feelings you expressed.</p><p></p><p><em>"I am beyond depressed, beyond lost. I must fantasize about taking my own life at least 10 times a day. Seriously fantasize about it where I go from beginning to end and think about every last detail. I would never take my own life of course because it wouldn't be fair to my husband and I couldn't leave my son to fend for himself, but I hate that I think about it as much as I do."</em></p><p></p><p>I know things look bleak right now. But please take some time for you. You need to regenerate. What kinds of things do you enjoy? What is the one thing you'd most like to do that you can take steps towards? I'm thinking that you need a bright spot to focus on that is separate from difficult child-related issues. When my life crumbled around me last year, I started to take walks. I started to do gardening (something I'm miserable at; but it got me outside and focused on something else). I planted over a 100 bulbs last autumn, largely because I wanted to have something to look forward to this spring. I <em>needed </em>to have something to look forward to that wasn't dependent on other people. Frankly, if I didn't have some small pin-pricks of light to focus on - something other than my problems - I don't think I'd be here right now. These battles with - and on behalf of - difficult child take so much out of us as parents and care-givers. It is easy to loose yourself in the mix. </p><p></p><p>Please take care of <em>you</em>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wildflower, post: 34385, member: 107"] I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now. Your post struck a cord with me partly because my difficult child is just a year younger than yours and this is something that I worry about with him as well - but mostly because you sound like you are at rock bottom. I dwelled there for a while when my difficult child was little and for a better part of last year due to "life" stuff and I'm very familiar with the feelings you expressed. [i]"I am beyond depressed, beyond lost. I must fantasize about taking my own life at least 10 times a day. Seriously fantasize about it where I go from beginning to end and think about every last detail. I would never take my own life of course because it wouldn't be fair to my husband and I couldn't leave my son to fend for himself, but I hate that I think about it as much as I do."[/i] I know things look bleak right now. But please take some time for you. You need to regenerate. What kinds of things do you enjoy? What is the one thing you'd most like to do that you can take steps towards? I'm thinking that you need a bright spot to focus on that is separate from difficult child-related issues. When my life crumbled around me last year, I started to take walks. I started to do gardening (something I'm miserable at; but it got me outside and focused on something else). I planted over a 100 bulbs last autumn, largely because I wanted to have something to look forward to this spring. I [i]needed [/i]to have something to look forward to that wasn't dependent on other people. Frankly, if I didn't have some small pin-pricks of light to focus on - something other than my problems - I don't think I'd be here right now. These battles with - and on behalf of - difficult child take so much out of us as parents and care-givers. It is easy to loose yourself in the mix. Please take care of [i]you[/i]. [/QUOTE]
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