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My 18-year-old chooses pot over family
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 705159" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there and sorry you are hurting and I'm the tragic loss of your life partner. So sad.</p><p></p><p>About your son, I would not call his behavior normal because drugs are involved. Does he work?</p><p></p><p>Most of us can not force our adult kids of any age to hang around with us. I have four adult kids and they don't want to hang around me like they once did. This is normal as they spread their wings to prepare for independence and their own families. We are close, but they are busy...I would be more alarmed if they were huddling with me rather than testing their lives.</p><p></p><p>What I have seen, however, is more ambition and more of a desire to realistically grow up than your son is showing. Hanging around with friends smoking pot or even other drugs has not been my personal experience. So I really don't think it's normal, but so also don't think most adult kids are super interested in hanging out with family all the time either. I do think any sort of lying can be tied to drugs, but have no clear picture here. My youngest is 20 so I have seen a few adult kids. </p><p></p><p>Do remember that you lost a beloved husband but your son lost his father and this could be one of his ways of dealing with it.</p><p></p><p>Please be good to yourself and remember:</p><p>Yesterday is history,</p><p>Tomorrow is a mystery,</p><p>The present is a gift.</p><p></p><p>Have you sought out therapy to help you through this difficult time?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 705159, member: 1550"] Hi there and sorry you are hurting and I'm the tragic loss of your life partner. So sad. About your son, I would not call his behavior normal because drugs are involved. Does he work? Most of us can not force our adult kids of any age to hang around with us. I have four adult kids and they don't want to hang around me like they once did. This is normal as they spread their wings to prepare for independence and their own families. We are close, but they are busy...I would be more alarmed if they were huddling with me rather than testing their lives. What I have seen, however, is more ambition and more of a desire to realistically grow up than your son is showing. Hanging around with friends smoking pot or even other drugs has not been my personal experience. So I really don't think it's normal, but so also don't think most adult kids are super interested in hanging out with family all the time either. I do think any sort of lying can be tied to drugs, but have no clear picture here. My youngest is 20 so I have seen a few adult kids. Do remember that you lost a beloved husband but your son lost his father and this could be one of his ways of dealing with it. Please be good to yourself and remember: Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, The present is a gift. Have you sought out therapy to help you through this difficult time? [/QUOTE]
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