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My 19 year old is killing me!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 435870" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We're not strangers any more, tank. We're parents like you, some of whom have already been through what you are going through now.</p><p></p><p>What I suggest you do first, is find out what you are legally permitted to do and what your legal obligations are towards her, if any. We've already had some discussion on this site about this very issue - in some states, such as NY, you have to provide for your child until they are 21, you cannot throw them out. If they leave, they can't get welfare while under 21 because they technically have a home to go to. But the parents are also legally responsible for what their runaway children do.</p><p></p><p>So find out what applies in your state, and where you stand. Possibly a call to your local hospital's mental care department (if they have one) might give you some answers.</p><p></p><p>Once you know your rights, you will have a better idea of the range of choices available to you.</p><p></p><p>If you are trying to sell your house, one option you might have is to move prematurely, so you can have your house NOT lived in while it's on the market. Stay with a friend or rent somewhere. Another sneakier option is to organise for the bathroom to be renovated (rendering the toilets especially, unusable) and move in with a friend for the duration. While you are all moved out, swoop in and toss her room. Give her warning that by a certain date the contents of her room will be removed and put into storage (giving her the bill) or into a skip. Or onto the lawn. Again, check the legality of this, but do what is legal.</p><p></p><p>Welcome. I'm glad yo found your way to starting your own thread.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 435870, member: 1991"] We're not strangers any more, tank. We're parents like you, some of whom have already been through what you are going through now. What I suggest you do first, is find out what you are legally permitted to do and what your legal obligations are towards her, if any. We've already had some discussion on this site about this very issue - in some states, such as NY, you have to provide for your child until they are 21, you cannot throw them out. If they leave, they can't get welfare while under 21 because they technically have a home to go to. But the parents are also legally responsible for what their runaway children do. So find out what applies in your state, and where you stand. Possibly a call to your local hospital's mental care department (if they have one) might give you some answers. Once you know your rights, you will have a better idea of the range of choices available to you. If you are trying to sell your house, one option you might have is to move prematurely, so you can have your house NOT lived in while it's on the market. Stay with a friend or rent somewhere. Another sneakier option is to organise for the bathroom to be renovated (rendering the toilets especially, unusable) and move in with a friend for the duration. While you are all moved out, swoop in and toss her room. Give her warning that by a certain date the contents of her room will be removed and put into storage (giving her the bill) or into a skip. Or onto the lawn. Again, check the legality of this, but do what is legal. Welcome. I'm glad yo found your way to starting your own thread. Marg [/QUOTE]
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