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my 19yr old daughter makes terrible choices and I'm afraid for her safety
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674808" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Don't try to guess. Clearly she is not ready to change and has not changed and is lying and maybe doesn't want anyone going through her things because there may be drugs or something else bad.</p><p></p><p>You can't do anything. Nothing. Nada. What CAN you do? You can't make her go to work. That's all on her.</p><p></p><p>So if you can stop guessing what your daughter may or may not do because if you know or don't know, it doesn't change anything. If you can distract yourself, do something nice for YOU. Your daughter is an adult and will sink or swim on her own. It is harmful to us to spend our lives trying to guess their next moves. See a movie, visit a friend, find a family member who is functional and loving and have fun...there is no way to control a daughter of her age. It is out of your hands. If you are religious, give her to God to care for. If not, tell yourself that you can only control one person...yourself...and try to find serenity and peace. Meditate maybe? Many good meditations to follow on YouTube.Neever done it before? Think you can't? Yes, I didn't think I could either, but I used YouTube's meditations to try and I always feel so relaxed afterwards. </p><p></p><p>Hugs for your poor hurting heart. We are there with you, holding your hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674808, member: 1550"] Don't try to guess. Clearly she is not ready to change and has not changed and is lying and maybe doesn't want anyone going through her things because there may be drugs or something else bad. You can't do anything. Nothing. Nada. What CAN you do? You can't make her go to work. That's all on her. So if you can stop guessing what your daughter may or may not do because if you know or don't know, it doesn't change anything. If you can distract yourself, do something nice for YOU. Your daughter is an adult and will sink or swim on her own. It is harmful to us to spend our lives trying to guess their next moves. See a movie, visit a friend, find a family member who is functional and loving and have fun...there is no way to control a daughter of her age. It is out of your hands. If you are religious, give her to God to care for. If not, tell yourself that you can only control one person...yourself...and try to find serenity and peace. Meditate maybe? Many good meditations to follow on YouTube.Neever done it before? Think you can't? Yes, I didn't think I could either, but I used YouTube's meditations to try and I always feel so relaxed afterwards. Hugs for your poor hurting heart. We are there with you, holding your hand. [/QUOTE]
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