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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 742604" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>I guess I want you to think about you, your husband, your marriage and especially your other two children. I'm talking about the path you have chosen for you. On the path you are, where are you going to end up? You say you've lost most of your friends, a lot of money but most importantly a lot of you. </p><p></p><p>You can't control your son. You know that. But you can control you. You can make choices for you. How much more are you willing to lose? How much will be left for those important people in your life? What do they need and deserve from you? Will you have it to give on this path?</p><p></p><p>When one of your daughters is ready for a wedding will you be able to throw yourself into it with absolute joy? Or will you be a shell going through the motions? </p><p></p><p>I have no answers. I think you know where the path your son is on will lead. Spending money on lawyers, forced rehab, etc hasn't worked. It rarely does. He has to want to change his path. Making the path easy isn't going to encourage him to change it. Making the path harder may not either. But making the path harder may mean more for you and the rest of your family.</p><p></p><p>You've read enough here and elsewhere to know what his immediate future holds. Have you read enough to know what yours holds on this path? What path do you want?</p><p></p><p>We make no judgements here. What is right for you now may be wrong next mo. What is right for me may be wrong for you. But there really is no right or wrong. Its what you choose. And we respect that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 742604, member: 23371"] I guess I want you to think about you, your husband, your marriage and especially your other two children. I'm talking about the path you have chosen for you. On the path you are, where are you going to end up? You say you've lost most of your friends, a lot of money but most importantly a lot of you. You can't control your son. You know that. But you can control you. You can make choices for you. How much more are you willing to lose? How much will be left for those important people in your life? What do they need and deserve from you? Will you have it to give on this path? When one of your daughters is ready for a wedding will you be able to throw yourself into it with absolute joy? Or will you be a shell going through the motions? I have no answers. I think you know where the path your son is on will lead. Spending money on lawyers, forced rehab, etc hasn't worked. It rarely does. He has to want to change his path. Making the path easy isn't going to encourage him to change it. Making the path harder may not either. But making the path harder may mean more for you and the rest of your family. You've read enough here and elsewhere to know what his immediate future holds. Have you read enough to know what yours holds on this path? What path do you want? We make no judgements here. What is right for you now may be wrong next mo. What is right for me may be wrong for you. But there really is no right or wrong. Its what you choose. And we respect that. [/QUOTE]
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