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my adult son is homeless and I am heartbroken
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 599753" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>(((hugs)))</p><p>My son started getting into trouble at a young age and almost went to prison. I scratch my head that he just can't get his life together. </p><p></p><p>After his last conn with the girlfriend from h*** I finally said, 'no more' and this time I meant it. He threatened suicide and said he would steal to get money. It hurts, but whatever he does is his choice. I'm so tired of his drama and poor choices.</p><p></p><p>Mine quit his job to go to college full time. He was on the Dean's list and getting a degree in computer security - now what </p><p>person with any common sense doesn't know that a convicted felon is not going to get a job in security? </p><p></p><p>He tries over and over to get me to cosign loans and I keep saying no - I guess he thinks he can wear me down. He went no contact with me in November and it has been difficult some days - but it gets easier and most days are so peaceful.</p><p></p><p>Mine abuses alcohol and drugs, so does girlie. She is very jealous and controlling and has cut off all contact with his friends. He was posting strange things on FB and offended some of his family so he dropped off the face of the earth.</p><p></p><p>As hard as it is to understand (I really can't) everything he does is his choice, and I have told him that. He had a fight with girlie and she came after him with a knife - she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself - I spent $ once again to help him and now I am certain he is back with girlie. His choice again! He cuts himself so one day he very well may succeed at suicide.</p><p></p><p>Learn to detach, turn it all over to your HP, find hobbies that you really enjoy, stop talking to family that doesn't agree with your choice (about him anyway). Some of my family doesn't understand either. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line is you have zero control over him, so let it go and take care of you. It's very hard, we all understand your pain. I can't tell you how many times I have asked, what did I do to deserve this - what did I do wrong. Regardless, the past is history and I can't change it or fix my son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 599753, member: 13558"] (((hugs))) My son started getting into trouble at a young age and almost went to prison. I scratch my head that he just can't get his life together. After his last conn with the girlfriend from h*** I finally said, 'no more' and this time I meant it. He threatened suicide and said he would steal to get money. It hurts, but whatever he does is his choice. I'm so tired of his drama and poor choices. Mine quit his job to go to college full time. He was on the Dean's list and getting a degree in computer security - now what person with any common sense doesn't know that a convicted felon is not going to get a job in security? He tries over and over to get me to cosign loans and I keep saying no - I guess he thinks he can wear me down. He went no contact with me in November and it has been difficult some days - but it gets easier and most days are so peaceful. Mine abuses alcohol and drugs, so does girlie. She is very jealous and controlling and has cut off all contact with his friends. He was posting strange things on FB and offended some of his family so he dropped off the face of the earth. As hard as it is to understand (I really can't) everything he does is his choice, and I have told him that. He had a fight with girlie and she came after him with a knife - she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself - I spent $ once again to help him and now I am certain he is back with girlie. His choice again! He cuts himself so one day he very well may succeed at suicide. Learn to detach, turn it all over to your HP, find hobbies that you really enjoy, stop talking to family that doesn't agree with your choice (about him anyway). Some of my family doesn't understand either. The bottom line is you have zero control over him, so let it go and take care of you. It's very hard, we all understand your pain. I can't tell you how many times I have asked, what did I do to deserve this - what did I do wrong. Regardless, the past is history and I can't change it or fix my son. [/QUOTE]
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