My son is 19, and awaiting a court date for 2 felony arson charges. Now, because of this he lost his job and a place to live (there is more drama to all this). He showed up at my door needing a place to stay. He called his dad's parents to ask them and they turned around and asked me if he could stay. I cannot allow him to live with me, the last time he did was a nightmare for me and I neglected my 13 year old daughter because I got so wrapped up in trying to keep him straight along with all the mental anguish he caused me. Now I am so heartbroken that he is so young and has the very heavy charges. when he showed up at my door, I spent more than half my day trying to help him (I am self employed so I easily could, but now I am behind in my work schedule). I ending up driving him to the cheapest hotel in a decent area and lending him a bicycle (he has drug his feet on getting a drivers license as well) and enough money for two more days of a hotel( 3 total), food and a phone card. And sent him off with love and the understanding that I cannot do any more. I woke in the middle of the night with worry and wanting to figure it out for him....and told myself if I want to sleep again that I have to be 100% out of his life, no accepting his calls or his other grandparents calls,,,I just do not want to know anything going on with my son's life...I feel truly sad about everything...I have support from my parents, my husband and some friends.....I never wanted this for him,,,,,,,,and I know he brought it all on himself...... The next obstacle I may face is ..what to do if his shows up at my door again?????