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My child moved back in. I am insane.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 365380" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Drugstores carry drug tests. Get whichever one tests for the most stuff so you get a complete picture. </p><p></p><p>It is not a good thing that she just sort of came back with few rules and/or expectations. I do not think you are doing any favors for her by letting her stay with you, esp this way. I know it is hard to make her go, but she is playing Russian Roulette with drugs instead of a gun. It is also extremely unhealthy for your other kids. They see you letting her come back with-o even asking that she be drug free while at your home. I guarantee she will try to get at least one of them to use drugs or to get drugs for her. My bro used to say I was "judgmental" when I told him I didn't approve of drugs and didn't want to do them. He hammered at me with the argument that if you haven't tried something you don't have any right to say if it is good or bad. If I wasn't just oppositional enough to refuse to be bullied into something like that I would have given in to shut him up, if for no other reason.</p><p></p><p>I know you and husband are tired and stressed. You still MUST sit down, regardless of how tired and stressed you are, and figure out the rules for her to stay with you. You need to decide exactly what the consequences will be if she doesn't follow them, and how much rent she will pay. No rent, no stay, no excuses. Drugs either in your home/property or in her while on your property need to be an instant eviction. </p><p></p><p>Every single thing you provide for her, food, toothpaste, tampons, rides, etc... is more that she doesn't have to pay for and can spend on drugs. EVERYTHING. Would you go and buy the drugs for her? It is exactly what you are doing when you allow her to live in your home while doing drugs. </p><p></p><p>I KNOW how hard this is. You may or may not be able to take a really hard line right now. But for the sake of the rest of the family you are going to have to do something. Until she hits bottom she will never get clean.</p><p></p><p>You and the rest of the family also need to go to al anon or narc anon. Even the kids if you can find meetings for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 365380, member: 1233"] Drugstores carry drug tests. Get whichever one tests for the most stuff so you get a complete picture. It is not a good thing that she just sort of came back with few rules and/or expectations. I do not think you are doing any favors for her by letting her stay with you, esp this way. I know it is hard to make her go, but she is playing Russian Roulette with drugs instead of a gun. It is also extremely unhealthy for your other kids. They see you letting her come back with-o even asking that she be drug free while at your home. I guarantee she will try to get at least one of them to use drugs or to get drugs for her. My bro used to say I was "judgmental" when I told him I didn't approve of drugs and didn't want to do them. He hammered at me with the argument that if you haven't tried something you don't have any right to say if it is good or bad. If I wasn't just oppositional enough to refuse to be bullied into something like that I would have given in to shut him up, if for no other reason. I know you and husband are tired and stressed. You still MUST sit down, regardless of how tired and stressed you are, and figure out the rules for her to stay with you. You need to decide exactly what the consequences will be if she doesn't follow them, and how much rent she will pay. No rent, no stay, no excuses. Drugs either in your home/property or in her while on your property need to be an instant eviction. Every single thing you provide for her, food, toothpaste, tampons, rides, etc... is more that she doesn't have to pay for and can spend on drugs. EVERYTHING. Would you go and buy the drugs for her? It is exactly what you are doing when you allow her to live in your home while doing drugs. I KNOW how hard this is. You may or may not be able to take a really hard line right now. But for the sake of the rest of the family you are going to have to do something. Until she hits bottom she will never get clean. You and the rest of the family also need to go to al anon or narc anon. Even the kids if you can find meetings for them. [/QUOTE]
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