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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 677862" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa, yes, I'm up early with coffee already (sigh). Your post was very comforting to me. It's true that my father is as safe as possible in the hospital. I had thought of that, but still felt guilty that he is there and I am here. Your post helped. I know you have gone through this and are still in pain about your mother. I am so sorry, but do not think I could relate to how you felt before now, although I did try. See...I did see my mother die. Well, not SEE, but know about it. But it did not affect me the same way it does most people who lose a mother. I had lost her years and years before her death and did not feel this aching emptiness toward her passing that I already feel for my father's illness. I had mourned the loss of a mother when she was still alive...I hope that doesn't sound cold. I am ever so sorry if I ever sounded as if I lacked empathy for your feelings. This is my very first huge loss since my grandmother died and in my grandmother's case it was fast and unexpected and in my opinion it was better that way for her. And for me (selfish, I know).</p><p></p><p>Your ideas are good. I will f loat them to my sister, although she may have already broached Dad with them. Or my brother may have.</p><p></p><p>In the rehab I stayed at after my accident, some of the patients had hospice nurses come in. Maybe an actual hospice will seem too final for my father. I do believe he would enjoy t he company at a rehab. He likes to be around people.</p><p></p><p>I am going to try to go back to sleep, but you know...probably a losing battle.</p><p></p><p>Very big hugs and thanks for everybody here who has helped to give me strength and comfort. It will not be forgotten.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 677862, member: 1550"] Copa, yes, I'm up early with coffee already (sigh). Your post was very comforting to me. It's true that my father is as safe as possible in the hospital. I had thought of that, but still felt guilty that he is there and I am here. Your post helped. I know you have gone through this and are still in pain about your mother. I am so sorry, but do not think I could relate to how you felt before now, although I did try. See...I did see my mother die. Well, not SEE, but know about it. But it did not affect me the same way it does most people who lose a mother. I had lost her years and years before her death and did not feel this aching emptiness toward her passing that I already feel for my father's illness. I had mourned the loss of a mother when she was still alive...I hope that doesn't sound cold. I am ever so sorry if I ever sounded as if I lacked empathy for your feelings. This is my very first huge loss since my grandmother died and in my grandmother's case it was fast and unexpected and in my opinion it was better that way for her. And for me (selfish, I know). Your ideas are good. I will f loat them to my sister, although she may have already broached Dad with them. Or my brother may have. In the rehab I stayed at after my accident, some of the patients had hospice nurses come in. Maybe an actual hospice will seem too final for my father. I do believe he would enjoy t he company at a rehab. He likes to be around people. I am going to try to go back to sleep, but you know...probably a losing battle. Very big hugs and thanks for everybody here who has helped to give me strength and comfort. It will not be forgotten. [/QUOTE]
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