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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 677890" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>It depends. The power of attorney/advanced care directive addresses when a person can no longer due to their mental state make good decisions themselves. Depending upon the stipulations, 1 or 2 doctors write letters that your father's decision making capacity is impaired, temporarily or not.</p><p></p><p>If he is still making good decisions then nobody can take away his power to decide for himself, nor should they. I resisted for the longest time taking over. Of course I already had but I wanted to keep the illusion that my mother was still in control. I think I was careful because of the way my sister is, (taking over everything, like it or not.) The hardest thing I ever did was have the power to make care decisions for my mother. Had M not helped me I do not think I could have done it.</p><p></p><p>I think Jewish Family Services is the best idea. They will work with the hospital social worker, your dad, your siblings and you. They will know all of the options and know all of the emotions involved. I think they would be a good buffer. The person will probably be a therapist. The social worker at the hospital advocates for the hospital, not the patient. They are discharge planners.</p><p></p><p>I wish I had done Jewish Family Services. I called but could not get it together. There is no JFS where I live only where my mother lived.</p><p></p><p>Serenity, I do not feel good today. I am not going to be on the computer much. Cedar is working and says she will check in in a few hours. Others are here.</p><p>Please take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 677890, member: 18958"] It depends. The power of attorney/advanced care directive addresses when a person can no longer due to their mental state make good decisions themselves. Depending upon the stipulations, 1 or 2 doctors write letters that your father's decision making capacity is impaired, temporarily or not. If he is still making good decisions then nobody can take away his power to decide for himself, nor should they. I resisted for the longest time taking over. Of course I already had but I wanted to keep the illusion that my mother was still in control. I think I was careful because of the way my sister is, (taking over everything, like it or not.) The hardest thing I ever did was have the power to make care decisions for my mother. Had M not helped me I do not think I could have done it. I think Jewish Family Services is the best idea. They will work with the hospital social worker, your dad, your siblings and you. They will know all of the options and know all of the emotions involved. I think they would be a good buffer. The person will probably be a therapist. The social worker at the hospital advocates for the hospital, not the patient. They are discharge planners. I wish I had done Jewish Family Services. I called but could not get it together. There is no JFS where I live only where my mother lived. Serenity, I do not feel good today. I am not going to be on the computer much. Cedar is working and says she will check in in a few hours. Others are here. Please take care of yourself. COPA [/QUOTE]
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