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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 211590" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>First, {{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}} for having to go through this. There are so many thoughts going through my head about your daughter, in particular, as well as our difficult child's in general.</p><p></p><p>Knowing that you saw the card and then <em>using it anyway</em> instead of throwing it away or stashing it shows that her thinking is clouded. But it also seems logical that she knows right from wrong, otherwise she would not have lied about it. Ergo, she made a conscious choice.</p><p></p><p>She also counted on it that you would not prosecute it. She was wrong. If I were you, I wouldn't fall for the guilt trip. It was absolutely her choice that she chose to steal. It was absolutely your choice that you chose to prosecute her. No matter how much it hurts, do <u>not</u> apologize to her. Make sure the moment she walks back in your door that if she steals - or breaks the law that you know of - again, you will call the police again and you won't bail her out <em>next time</em>, either.</p><p></p><p>You drew a line in the sand. Don't erase it by letting her know it was as hard on you as it was on her. No one learns the lesson that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 211590, member: 99"] First, {{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}} for having to go through this. There are so many thoughts going through my head about your daughter, in particular, as well as our difficult child's in general. Knowing that you saw the card and then [i]using it anyway[/i] instead of throwing it away or stashing it shows that her thinking is clouded. But it also seems logical that she knows right from wrong, otherwise she would not have lied about it. Ergo, she made a conscious choice. She also counted on it that you would not prosecute it. She was wrong. If I were you, I wouldn't fall for the guilt trip. It was absolutely her choice that she chose to steal. It was absolutely your choice that you chose to prosecute her. No matter how much it hurts, do [u]not[/u] apologize to her. Make sure the moment she walks back in your door that if she steals - or breaks the law that you know of - again, you will call the police again and you won't bail her out [i]next time[/i], either. You drew a line in the sand. Don't erase it by letting her know it was as hard on you as it was on her. No one learns the lesson that way. [/QUOTE]
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