librarygrrrl
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I am really not sure if this is the right place but I am really at a loss to what is causing my difficult child daughter's behavior. Actually, it could be a number of things which makes it so confusing to explain! So I will just give a recap.
daughter is 8 1/2. She has always been high energy, life of the party type personality.
She is very bright, straight A's in school, artistic and loved (emphasis on past tense) to read. While she could be very stubborn and argumentative, I did not have huge behavior issues with her until 6 months ago.
Back in Jan.2010 I discovered genital warts on her which of course I took her to the Dr immediately. Long story short, she has not disclosed any information. We don't do daycare. Babysitters have only been family members. It was a shock, still is. She has been interviewed by the police a number of times, her pediatrician, social worker a couple of times. We even put her in therapy back in June to see if that would help her talk. Nothing. At this point I am wondering if innocent transmission is possible, but that's for a whole other forum. So basically I have been getting her all the help I can get for the possible molestation issue even though she still is not disclosing.
Fast forward to Oct.2010 and during an argument she went "crazy". Screaming, slamming doors, throwing things and then took off out the front door. It was 2am! She was in pj's, barefeet. husband could not catch her, so I had to go out in the car to look for her. Thankfully she just ran around the block and came home. So that was the first blow up. Since then, random things would set her off. Being told to do her homework. Asking her to pick up her clothes. Turning the TV off. She just goes into these rages and gets this crazed look in her eyes. It has gotten so bad that I have to physically hold her down to keep her from tearing up the house and bothering her brother who is usually trying to sleep. So I have to hold down daughter until she wears herself out. Usually these episodes last 2 hours.
Her therapist is no help so I took her for a psychiatric evaluation who suggested a neurologist. She had an MRI and EEG which came back normal.
She only has this behavior at home - at school her grades and behavior are great. So the Dr's just point their fingers at us, her parents, like it is our fault. They all want to know what changed in October to bring about this explosive behavior and nothing at home has changed.
I was thinking she may have an issue with sugar sensitivity so I have really cut that out.
Now I am thinking maybe she has a hormonal problem.
Maybe she is stressed from all the molestation interviews/therapy session, and she is just acting out now?
Or maybe she is depressed since I have read in kids depression can be displayed as anger.
She does not like to read anymore, which bothers me since she used to love it. All she wants to do is watch tv.
She is super jealous of easy child DS. He is so sweet and loveable, you can't help but love on him all the time. But then she comes tearing into the room "accidentally" hitting him or knocking him over. She really needs to get over the jealousy.
We are just walking on eggshells at home.
Since I have a history of depression I feel she is susceptible to a mood disorder as well. However, no Dr's want to diagnosis her with anything since she can control her anger/rage at school.
Sorry this was so long and maybe fragmented. I just want to help my daughter before 8 turns into 16 and I lose what little control I have!
daughter is 8 1/2. She has always been high energy, life of the party type personality.
She is very bright, straight A's in school, artistic and loved (emphasis on past tense) to read. While she could be very stubborn and argumentative, I did not have huge behavior issues with her until 6 months ago.
Back in Jan.2010 I discovered genital warts on her which of course I took her to the Dr immediately. Long story short, she has not disclosed any information. We don't do daycare. Babysitters have only been family members. It was a shock, still is. She has been interviewed by the police a number of times, her pediatrician, social worker a couple of times. We even put her in therapy back in June to see if that would help her talk. Nothing. At this point I am wondering if innocent transmission is possible, but that's for a whole other forum. So basically I have been getting her all the help I can get for the possible molestation issue even though she still is not disclosing.
Fast forward to Oct.2010 and during an argument she went "crazy". Screaming, slamming doors, throwing things and then took off out the front door. It was 2am! She was in pj's, barefeet. husband could not catch her, so I had to go out in the car to look for her. Thankfully she just ran around the block and came home. So that was the first blow up. Since then, random things would set her off. Being told to do her homework. Asking her to pick up her clothes. Turning the TV off. She just goes into these rages and gets this crazed look in her eyes. It has gotten so bad that I have to physically hold her down to keep her from tearing up the house and bothering her brother who is usually trying to sleep. So I have to hold down daughter until she wears herself out. Usually these episodes last 2 hours.
Her therapist is no help so I took her for a psychiatric evaluation who suggested a neurologist. She had an MRI and EEG which came back normal.
She only has this behavior at home - at school her grades and behavior are great. So the Dr's just point their fingers at us, her parents, like it is our fault. They all want to know what changed in October to bring about this explosive behavior and nothing at home has changed.
I was thinking she may have an issue with sugar sensitivity so I have really cut that out.
Now I am thinking maybe she has a hormonal problem.
Maybe she is stressed from all the molestation interviews/therapy session, and she is just acting out now?
Or maybe she is depressed since I have read in kids depression can be displayed as anger.
She does not like to read anymore, which bothers me since she used to love it. All she wants to do is watch tv.
She is super jealous of easy child DS. He is so sweet and loveable, you can't help but love on him all the time. But then she comes tearing into the room "accidentally" hitting him or knocking him over. She really needs to get over the jealousy.
We are just walking on eggshells at home.
Since I have a history of depression I feel she is susceptible to a mood disorder as well. However, no Dr's want to diagnosis her with anything since she can control her anger/rage at school.
Sorry this was so long and maybe fragmented. I just want to help my daughter before 8 turns into 16 and I lose what little control I have!